Post # 1
I am new to the planning process, and I was just wondering if people are supposed to bring personal type gifts to the bachelorette party. I never thought they did, but I went to 2 last year where the girls got lingerie and perfume type gifts, and I have seen pictures online of bachelorette invites with the bride’s size on them. My family seemed to think these gifts should come at the bridal shower, but it seems like unless you are doing a themed shower for lingerie most people bring household type items. Just curious if you bees have any experience! Thanks.
Post # 3
@cincilover: I don’t think you have to give gifts but sometimes people will give dirty gifts that may be inappropriate for a shower. At my bachelorette my friends gave me some gag gifts like a penis necklace, etc.
Post # 4
thanks! i was wondering since everyone I know has gotten a ton of lingerie at their bach party in addition to having 2 wedding showers!
Post # 5
I had 2 batch parties at one I get a gift and at the other no. I never heard of gifts at batch parties but in Europe they give gifts, and not like crazy “here’s penis pasta” but something memorable or practical. So at my US batch party I did not get a gift but at my European one I got a gift cert for a kitchen store (I love to bake).
Post # 6
I got a sash, a penis tiara, and a penis straw!
Post # 7
All the girls who came on my bachelorette trip gave me lingerie during a surprise shower my Maid/Matron of Honor planned. It was really sweet of them. They also had bachelorette themed stuff: cups, shot glasses, penis straws, sunglasses, decorations, etc. My Maid/Matron of Honor gave out gift bags to all my other bridesmaids. It was such a fun trip! I don’t think you need to get gifts for a bachelorette party, however, especially if the girls who are attending it will also attend your showers.
Post # 8
Thanks for the reply! It seems like what your BMs did is what a lot of people are doing now. I’m glad yours was so fun!
Post # 9
I got a handful of gifts in mine. Nothing extravagant, but cute & thoughtful stuff. A few ladies bought me panties/lingerieish stuff. One bought me a scented candle set “for romanitic evenings.” I appreciated the stuff, but I wasn’t expecting it (or the party, for that matter!), and it certainly wasn’t mandatory/necessary.
Post # 10
you can but not neccessary, just buy the bride a drink if you go out.
Post # 11
Gifts aren’t necessary but alwayd nice if you give one. I gave my sister a naughty book & lingerie at her bachelorette. She also got a sash & tiara. The guest received gifts bags with some naughty taffys, lotions, etc. I’ve been to others that I didn’t give a gift.
Post # 12
I got gifts at my bachelorette party, even though I told the hosts I didn’t want the guests to bring any. But I think that’s the norm here in the midwest, at least with my groups of friends.
Post # 13
I am also in the midwest, and every recent bride I know has basically had a lingerie shower before heading out for the night.
Post # 14
Yeah, that’s cause in Europe we don’t have bridal showers so gifts can be given at the bach party.
Post # 15
It seems to depend on the group of friends, I’m from the Midwest too and this has always been kind of hit-or-miss in my experience. I’ve never seen someone get anything expensive or anything, but sometimes they’ll get the bride the sash or other embarassing things to wear, joke sex stuff or shot glasses, stuff like that.
Honestly, I would have been fairly mortified to have people buying me lingerie and everyone knowing my bra size, especially when my bridal party included my 15 year old cousin and my Future Sister-In-Law – awkward! We went bowling and had a sleepover pajama party, so I may not be the target audience for this question anyways, LOL.
Post # 16
I got 2 robes, a pair of pjs, 2 chemises, a bunch of panties, 2 Victoria’s Secret bra and panty sets, 4 cute bras, and 3 bottles of wine. I wore a sash, tiara, and boa for the night.