(Closed) Gifts for Family

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My personal philosophy on gifts is that they should be things you want to give not obligatory, and when you recieve them they should be appreciated, but not expected.  So that being said I would ONLY buy gifts for people you want to buy them for, and know that your gifts should be appreciated, just because it was thoughtful of you to get something.

Regarding my grandmother, well she would just love my spending time with her. If my fiance and I came to take her out to dinner or to just hang out that is what she would like. However, to buy something – she likes nice hats, and perfume.  Do the grandma’s have a favorite perfume?

In terms of Aunts/Uncles/outoftown guests, I think you could put together a tiny and cheap gift basket with some bottled water, maps/directions, and some snacks that would be very thoughtful and minimal expense.  But per above, I also think you are not obligated to do anything.


Post # 4
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Gifting can get out of hand.  My suggestion would be to give them a card, and inside write something meaningful about how happy you are to have them there as you celebrate your marriage.  I find that heartfelt thanks is often better than a rushed gift purchased at the last minute or because you felt like you "had to."  

Good luck! 

Post # 5
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

You should give gifts to the people you want to — I agree it has gotten a little crazy with having to get some trinket for everyone. 

Here’s what I’m doing: for out of town guests, which is basically everyone, I’m making out of town bags with local candies, water bottles, maps, etc. Fun and cheap and useful stuff. I’m also including a note of thanks. We’re only having 30 guests, so this is easy, manageable, and is also taking the place of favors at the wedding. 

None of my grandparents will be attending. I’m going to visit those who are still living shortly after the ceremony and bring a cupcake from the bakery we’re using for the wedding, photos (including professional pics for them to keep) as well as silk boutonnieres and corsages. I think the flowers and cake, in addition to the visit, will be a really nice touch. Would your grandparents like a keepsake flower? Another idea I might do in my situation is to write to them telling them how they’ve molded my views of successful marriage. My grandfather has been telling me for years how great it is to be married (to my grandmother!). 

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