(Closed) Gifts for In laws at wedding?

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

I’m wondering about this too. My parents are helping a lot so I can see gifting them but the in laws aren’t so I’m not sure what the gift is for? 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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michellebell85:  We gave the in-laws a picture frame for a future wedding photo that we printed for them. With a Michael’s 40% off coupon you can pull that off pretty cheap. But I don’t think it’s necessary, particularly if they aren’t helping (financially or emotionally).

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I don’t think it’s necessary. You could get them something small within your budget though. I got my family and my in laws a beautifully printed card that said we would gift them with a wedding keepsake album that I made from artisan state after the wedding. I bought my father, step father and Father-In-Law a tie clip and set of cuff links that said their title and a tie to wear. My mum, mother in law and step mum all got a beautiful bracelet that said their title and a bottle of perfume for the day. It didn’t cost much as I got them off etsy.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

If your in laws are helping you pay id make the room in your budget.  its a nice way to thank them for the gift and even a monogrammed hankerchief or a pocket square to wear the day of would be nice!

 

If they aren’t helping pay I’d say a small I love you gift is MORE than enough.  A photo frame with a wedding picture or something would be plenty.

Post # 6
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Newbee

I am a mom of two girls.  One has been married 3 years and the other is about to get engaged.  This whole “getting a gift for the parents” thing is completely foreign to me.  It must be a new thing–another money-making gimmick for the wedding industry. i don’t think anyone my age (mid-50’s) will expect a gift from their child.  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I read about parent gifts on the Bee, it’s the first I heard of it, and I thought about it. But then having reflected on the fact that we paid for our wedding and I personally received no support from the ILs I didn’t organise one. My DH could have if he wished. I paid for his mothers hair and make up…. She ended up pulling out of getting her make up done so I was out of pocket for that for nothing. She liked her hair though, I think, and that was a nice touch, having her come early in the day while we got ready 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

 

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michellebell85:  If your ILs aren’t paying I don’t think you need to get them a gift.  You can give your gift to your parents privately to avoid making an embarassing scene of things.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

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Mamajacket:  I agree, I’m in my mid-late 30’s and this isn’t something I’m familiar with, or have done in the past. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think it’s nice to get them something small, regardless of whether or not they are paying. MY H just took care of his dad & my dad along with his groomsmen gifts, and I took care of our moms in addition to the bridesmaid gifts. We thought it was easiest that way.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

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Mamajacket:  It actually does sound like something the wedding industry thought up, to suck even more money and guilt out of wedding couples.

This notion of gifts for the parents wasn’t around when I got married in 1993. If it was, I am sure I would have heard about it.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I didn’t get my parents or in laws gifts when we got married. They were just happy to be a part of the day. My parents paid for the wedding. No one has held any grudges about it. Our families are pretty easy going. 

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