Post # 1
Hi bees! I know I’m 10 months out, but I have been thinking hard about my girls’ gifts. I am buying their clutches because they will be carrying those down the aisle in lieu of bouquets. These will be around $45 a piece after shipping. I was going to fill the clutches with things they may need throughout the day (chapstick, gum, lip gloss, etc.). I was also going to get them a card and perhaps something small and personal or reception shoes. I have 7 BMs, so any more than $60-$70 a person is pretty pricey. I’m still in school, so both my wedding and my life are 100% funded on my parents, which is why I feel bad running out to Tiffany for my friends.
I originally thought I’d buy them day of jewelry, but one of my girls doesn’t have her ears pierced and one is allergic to all metal except for platinum (yeah, she’s even allergic to gold!). My 15 y.o. sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor, and I thought it would be nice to get her her first set of pearls as a “special” gift. My question is, am I being stingy? Should I spend a little more on them? How much are you spending (total) on your BMs?
Thanks so much!
Post # 3
I think $60-$70 is pretty generous. I’m spending $100 for their dress, and I might get something else small for each of them, but I’m only having 3, so that helps keep costs down!
P.s. I love your idea to fill the clutches with things they’ll need the day-of 🙂
Post # 4
I spent less than that on gifts! but I also bought them bouquets to carry. The flowers were funded by my parents but the gifts by myself. I got them jewlery (cheap not platium!) and personalized etsy stationary, along with breakfast & lunch morning of and lots of drinks and snacks day before and day of.
Post # 5
It sort of depends on whether they are flying anywhere to attend the wedding, if their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses are particularly pricey, if they contributed a lot to the bachelorette party/bridal shower…
I think what you described (a clutch with drug store trinkets) is totally fine and generous if the above issues don’t really apply. It is also fine to spend a little more on your sister or whoever your Maid/Matron of Honor is.
Post # 6
If at all possible, try to nix the chapsticks and gum and put money toward something that doesn’t have anything to do with the wedding. As much as clutched and “day of” jewelry is nice, it’s never really a gift for the bridesmaids, it’s more of a gift to you, you know? I hope that doesn’t sound snarky, but I think brides have a hard time realizing that maybe they don’t want matching jewelry and purses. It could not be their style.
I asked my BMs to wear their own jewelry and got them gift that I knew they would use. Even mani gift certificates would be inexpensive. Or a gift card to their favorite store.
Overall, we spent about $80 per bridesmaid.
Post # 7
all my girls have to travel for the wedding, so i was planning on getting a couple of rooms for us all the night before as their gift, along with some jewelry that i will make for them.
Post # 8
I love the idea of filling the clutches with the small stuff that they might forget to take with them! There are your bridesmaids for a reason and hopefully they will appreciate anything you give them. Your gifts cannot be more than you can afford!
Post # 9
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I think what you have planned is very sweet. Your friends and sister will really appreciate any form of thanks that you give them. I have 4 girls and I purchased their jewelry for the day of and then also picked up some purses for them. I’m trying to see if I can work into our budget to get their hair/makeup done for the wedding.
Post # 10
I spent about $75-$80 on each of my 6 BMs and got them everything you see below:
I second the PPs who said that a clutch that they’re carrying down the aisle and day-of jewelery are more gifts to you than gifts for them. They are things that make your day look the way YOU want it to. I think those things are fine for part of the gift but IMO should not comprise the entire gift.
Post # 11
@Mrs.KMM: ooo can you tell us more about the stationery? that is a FABULOUS idea. how did you do it and how much did it cost, if you don’t mind sharing?
Post # 12
i got a mani/pedi the day before the wedding as a gift once for being a birdesmaid, and i thought it was a great gift! we all got to hang out and relax together for a bit. it doesn’t have to be the most expensive gift, sometimes something fun that you do together can be a better gift than an expensive piece of jewelry. especially if you are in school and have a lot of BMs, I’d focus on putting thought into the gift more than worrying about whether or not you spent enough.
Post # 13
2 out of the 7 of my BMs will have to travel. Their dresses were $60 and their shoes were $45 (the girls agreed that they wanted to buy the matching dresses and shoes, so I didn’t feel AS bad about having them spend the money). I’ve offered the girls who will be traveling a place to stay and certainly don’t expect any of them to attend prewedding events.
@Miss Chapstick: I know what you mean. The gum and stuff wasn’t something I was including in the price (I’m a dental student…xylitol gum is important!). I figured the clutch would act as a bouquet that didn’t die. If they wanted to use it again, awesome. If not, maybe they could sell it on ebay or something. I was thinking about buying them something I saw that matched their personal style, or lip gloss/makeup that I know they already wear.
Thanks for your feedback everyone…it’s giving me ideas and making me feel better!
Post # 14
I was not** including in the price….ahhh typos.
Post # 15
@Mrs. Meowerson: I got them from ETSY seller ohlouisedesigns and they were $15 each for ten cards and envelopes. She has tons of different patterns and colors so I got 4 different patterns and had different color combinations for each (I got 2 of each for 8 sets total – I wanted some for me and got one for our guest book attendant too).