Post # 1
My mum was diagnosed with stage 1c ovarian cancer last week. It’s still not sunk in at all. She’s had a radical hysterectomy and will be having 6 sessions of chemo starting in January.
Due to this and moving house and both my Grandma and Granny being ill/in hospital and having a miscarriage myself I’ve (surprise surprise) not managed to get any Christmas presents sorted. Just wondering whether anyone has been through anything similar and has any suggestions for things to get them that may help with the next 6 months? So far I’ve got them both some books and for my mum I’ve also got some burts bees body moisturiser stuff, along with fluffy slipper socks and a lip balm. I’m thinking more stuff to help with symptoms and stress as the pair of them will be very stressed/tired, but I’m not sure where to start?
Post # 2
I’m very sorry, I’m sure you’re feeling very shocked. That’s a lot to take on at once. I hope your mom has an ok time through treatment and makes a full recovery.
A few ideas:
– Kindle or tablet – your mom’s going to have a lot of time at the hospital during her chemo sessions
– Perhaps not a Christmas present, but set up a meal delivery or go over and stock the fridge with frozen food – my mom helped my grandparents out a lot during my grandmother’s cancer treatment, and food was always the number one worry. You could also look into setting up a meal train, where friends and neighbours take on a number of meals during treatment.
– Gift certificate for spa treatment for both your mom and dad (this depends on what your mom is allowed to do during treatment)
– Warm blanket for your mom to sit under during chemo treatment
– Your mom will need to stay hydrated, so a nice insulated water bottle that keeps water cool (like a S’well bottle) would be good
– Not sure what type of chemo your mom will have, but if it will result in hair loss, tell her you will take her out shopping for a hat or scarf if she wants (or look on Etsy for options)
Post # 3
If you can, a cleaning service to come in once a week or once every other week would also be a great gift – it would allow your dad to focus on your mom and not worry about cleaning the house.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry to hear this about your Mom.
Stock their pantry with staples like pasta, stock, dried and canned goods; provide food for the freezer, a cleaning service, comfort items like blankets, pillows and soft pajamas. Music – put together a playlist for their iPod, etc., of your mother’s favorite music.
Also, spending time with her as much as you possibly can will probably be the most appreciated gift you can give.
Post # 5
Very sorry to hear about her diagnosis. I would check to see if there are any cancer support services affiliated with the hospital she is going to for procedures and then ask them for suggestins. They will know about specific products that are useful for patients, things that you wouldn’t have thought of until going through it. Dad will be going through a lot too, maybe a gift certificate for a massage if he will use it?
Post # 6
jejangles : Joyful2019 : Sunfire : bhappy :
thank you so much for taking the time to reply, really really appreciated. I’ve noted all those things down and have a day off for shopping next Monday. Got my brain ticking & think a lot of glass tupaware may be on the list so we can do a load of cooking & stock up their freezer!
she’s going to be (and had the operation) at the Christie hospital in Manchester which is known for being a cancer specific hospital. I’ve only ever spoken to the staff there while she was having the op before the diagnosis but I’ll see whether there’s a way I can email them to ask. Thanks!
Post # 7
if your mum is going to be in bed/sitting down for long periods of time during her recovery, you could get her a real shearling rug to sit on to prevent bed sores. I got one from Amazon for about $50.
Also get her her favourite DVD box sets to watch or books to read. I don’t know what your mums tastes are but she will probably want something uplifting and relaxing, nothing too intense as it can be an emotional time. When my mum was ill she loved watching Jane Austen adaptations, downton abbey, murder she wrote, lighthearted stuff. She also loved being read to, Jane Austen books and Jeeves and Wooster. They cheered her up so much!
I also bought her some waterless shampoo that you can rub into her hair without having to bend over a sink. It just towel dries off leaving clean hair.
I got board games we could play as a family, downton abbey cluedo and cat themed monopoly!
I think probably the biggest help you could give them is cooking food to eat as pp said.
So sorry to hear all that you’re going through, bee. I was in a similar position this time last year. Wishing you the best.