Post # 1
We ordered parent albums for our parents, but they obviously won’t get these until months after the wedding.
What could we get them that’s small, but shows that we appreciate all their help? Should we get them something small and then tell them that we have something else coming but it won’t get here for awhile?
Post # 3
We didn’t do anything for our parents. Nor for eachother. It’s enough already, and no one expects it. I think it’s a new “Pinterest-led” painful addition to the to-do list. Thank them in a short toast at the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 4
@drlolaz: But my parents are giving us a large sum of money. I feel like we owe them at least something? They did so much more than the bridal party did, yet we’re obligated to give them gifts.
Post # 5
Um, parents have always received thank you gifts. It was not invented with pinterest. We gave them each a framed e-pic. Would have also given a nice bottle of wine, but they were flying.
Post # 6
@MrsTVLover: Thank you! I didn’t think I was crazy for wanting to get them something!
If only I’d thought of the e-pic idea!! My parents wanted to order photos and have placed their order already. I feel like it would be a redundant gift.
Maybe a nice frame would be nice though. With the intent that they could put a wedding pic in it. But that’s one of the things I’m getting the bridesmaids as well.
Maybe a nice Christmas ornament? (Wedding is in November)
Post # 7
@MrsGatito: This is my issue too. I’ve seen some discussion on whether you still give parent gifts if they didn’t help with the wedding. Like what the purpose is.
But then if they DID help with the wedding, they’ve spent a bunch of money too… so you should spend more to get an expensive gift for them? That doesn’t really make sense to me.
So I’ve been having trouble with this too… so my thought was then, the parent gifts weren’t about the money, but were more about the sentiment. And this is where I think pintrest and blogs are helpful— so I think we’re going to do an small album (or like shutterfly book) for each after the wedding, and then day before or day or some sort of sentimental thing. Like maybe the embrodiered hankercheifs? I am not sure yet, but I think a small sentimental token would be a nice touch but not too much money? Does that sound dumb?
Post # 8
@Eradicatereality: I think that sounds good, not dumb at all. I like the idea of something sentimental. My mom is not sentimental at all though, so it’s tricky.
My parents are contributing money, however we didn’t need it. We did all the planning with the idea that we could afford it ourselves – if my parents suddenly needed new plumbing throughout the house, I couldn’t take their money. So this was our safety net.
So I feel like spending a bit of money on them is okay. Their contribution is our wedding gift.
FI’s parents are not contributing anything and they aren’t hosting anything (they just don’t have the means to do it) but we are still going to get them the same gift. Our parents don’t know if the other contributed anything, or how much, so this is the best way to go about it. The gift is not so much in thanks for the monetary contribution, but more so a thanks for being our parents and for supporting us.
But since the albums weren’t exactly cheap, we don’t want to go over the top with the other gift.
Post # 9
@MrsGatito: We gave my Dad engraved cuff links and our mom’s Embroidered Hankerchief’s on the day of our wedding – both purchased off of etsy. Then way after we made them an album and gave them a framed photo .
Post # 10
@MrsGatito: i got my mom and the groom’s mom a nice embroidered handkerchief with their monogram and the wedding date on it.
and then for the groom’s dad i got him a monogrammed handkerchief, too. obviously more manly, haha.
i figure there will be some tears, and it’s a nice keepsake!
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I’m also in the camp of “it’s not Pinterest-invented, it’s standard to say thanks for raising me and for giving me a ton of dough.”
We did IOUs for a canvas print of their choosing from the wedding plus a shutterfly album of wedding photos. The day of, we also gave them embroidered hankerchiefs with a personal message. (Actually I guess they were just from me, but that wasn’t surprising… my husband is the sweetest guy alive but doesn’t really do gifts.)
Anyway, they were from the Etsy shop Inspired Stitches and cost ~$100 for 4. I think it might have been the best money spent for the wedding. All 4 of them cried when I gave them to them!
For the moms: https://www.etsy.com/transaction/142089124?ref=fb2_tnx_title
For the dads: https://www.etsy.com/transaction/142089125?ref=fb2_tnx_title
Post # 12
I got both sets of parents an 8X10 photo with a nice frame of the formal portrait of the family (DH, me, parents, siblings posed in the church)
Post # 13
Our mothers (both fathers passed away) didn’t give us money, but we still gave them gifts.
I got Mother-In-Law the same bracelt I got my bridesmaids because it’s something everyone in my family wears, and I want her to feel like family.
I got both of them vintage hankies (and also got them for my aunts/sisters not in the wedding so they’d feel special)
I got my mom an antique vase in a type of china she collects. She already had the bracelet Mother-In-Law got, and I thought she’d appreciate the vase (and did). She’d just moved into a new home and it worked into her decor well.
Post # 14
All of our wedding party wore custom Converse shoes, and both of our dads wanted some too, so we paid for those. We got our moms manicures at a local spa 🙂 We also plan on putting together wedding photo albums for both of them, but haven’t got our pics back yet.