- yelash
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2010
Help! I’m getting married next week and haven’t found a gift yet for our parents. I am totally stumped! Any ideas would be helpful! Thanks!
Help! I’m getting married next week and haven’t found a gift yet for our parents. I am totally stumped! Any ideas would be helpful! Thanks!
I wish I could help, but I’ll be checking this thread often myself for replies. I know we’re supposed to get the parents a gift, but my parents don’t want one (though I wouldn’t feel right NOT getting them one!)
So, what the heck do ya get them?!?! 🙂 Good luck but I hope some bees start answering … this thread will help more ppl than we realize!!!
A lot of people give parent albums as gifts. I am a knitter, so I am knitting each set of parents a pretty heirloom style lacy throw/blanket.
I have a question. Why do you need to get your parents a gift? Its your wedding so don’t parents get you a gift? Not judging, I’ve just never heard of this. Does it only apply if they are paying or helping pay for the wedding?
We got ours restaurant gift cards and nice pewter photo albums.
@PuntaCanaBride I know. I didn’t know we had to get them gifts. That’s why it’s last minute, but other siblings of my fiance got their parents gifts when they got married. They looked at me strange when I said I didn’t know we had to. So, that’s why I’m asking.
We took my parents out to dinner the night before the wedding to thank them for their help. We didn’t have a rehearsal dinner, so this worked for us, and they were surprised/happy. We didn’t include my ILs becuase they didn’t help with the wedding at all (that sounds b**chy, I know, and it’s not about money – the ILs just aren’t the helping type, I guess, and they didn’t do anything. My parents did give us some $$ but they also did a ton of stuff, and we wanted to thank them for that…so including his parents in the thank-you dinner didn’t seem right).
Both sets of parents are getting photo albums from us for Christmas, though.
We’re getting both sets of parents gift certificates to www.bnbfinder.com. Its a service that allows you to purchase a gift certificate that can be used at hundreds (maybe thousands, I’m not sure) of B&B’s all over the country. We’re from Upstate, NY (not far from Vermont) so there are tons of B&B’s to choose from in our area. Neither set of parents ever really gets the opportunity to take a vacation so we wanted to treat them to a weekend on us. After all the help they’ll be giving us for our wedding, they’ll deserve it. We’re also going to throw in a coupon for free dog sitting since FI’s parents have dogs and my parents will be getting one soon.
@PuntaCanaBride:it’s sort of a “thank you for supporting my relationship and for raising me and doing everything you do for me” gift, but it’s especially needed if they’re paying.
I got both Moms a pair of pearl earrings to wear at the wedding, and I put my fiance in charge of buying for the Dads. We plan to gift them a photo book after the wedding, as well.
@PuntaCanaBride: Atleast where I’m from, the parents are given a gift as a thank you for helping with the wedding. They are technically members of the wedding party and just like you would get gifts for your bridesmaids and groomsmen, they should get a gift too. You obviously dont have to get them anything but its a nice gesture. Couples in my area always thank the parents in some way, even if they didn’t help with the wedding.
hmmm What about getting them a really pretty photo album and then promising to fill it up with pictures from the wedding when we get our photos from the photographer?
@yelash: If thats something your parents would like, go for it. I personally try to choose gifts that are a little more creative. The photo album is something that ALOT of couples do so I try to steer clear of those types of things. However, it is a popular gift idea.
I know it’s not super creative. But, I think they would like it, and prints get expensive from a photographer, so I think they would appreciate that. I can’t think of something that they don’t already have. Plus, I know my Future Mother-In-Law didn’t get an album of her other children’s weddings because they didn’t give her one and she didn’t get around to doing it herself.
The way I think about giving gifts is not as a thank you for paying for stuff, but as a thank you for raising us both and supporting our relationship for the past 10 years.
We are gifting both mothers a 3 stone light blue sapphire (the stone in my ring) necklace to represent FI’s family, my family and then a stone to represent the new family that will be started on our wedding day. Both dads love to garden so we are gifting them a white flowering dogwood tree that will bloom every July (the month we are getting married) to remind them how much we love and appreciate them. We are doing photobooks for Christmas presents.
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