- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2008
My parents are footing the ENTIRE bill for our wedding. We have had a very generous budget and we’ve been able to do/get/have pretty much whatever we want. My parents have been more than accomodating and even though they aren’t breaking the bank or wiping out their savings to pay for this, it’s still incredibly generous.
FI’s parents have not contributed. They were not asked to, they don’t have the money to, they are paying for a very low-key Rehearsal Dinner, but that is it. And that’s fine, the fact that they haven’t contributed isn’t an issue, it’s just not in their ability, and we haven’t needed them to.
In regards to gifts for the parents. This is how I see gifts:
Gift for Father and Mother of the Bride (when paying for the whole wedding): Gift is to say thank you for the wedding, thank you for support, thank you for hosting a gorgeous party, etc.
Gift for parents of the groom (when not contributing much/if at all): A momento to say thanks for raising a good man, something to help them remember the day by.
Is this a wrong way of thinking? I ask because we have talked about getting my parents a really special, generous gift (finding a good Living Social deal to send them somwhere they’ve never been, i.e. Nantucket or Colorado for a long weekend). My parents have put a lot of blood, sweat, tears (not literally) and money into this wedding. They are both a close to Fiance and I, we don’t spend much time with his parents and Fiance spends a lot of time fishing, gofling, etc with my dad and my brother.
Are we obligated to get FI’s parents the same caliber of gift? Even though they have not been involved with the planning (and I mean, not at all involved. Nothing), and just handed us a check for the Rehearsal Dinner budget. I was thinking of doing something like a photobook or something for them. Is this going to be awkward presenting my parents with a three-night stay somehwere they’ve not been as a thank you for this huge thing they’ve done for us? I hate to say “this seems fair”, but it does. Is this expected if the brides parents are paying for everything? Please help