Post # 1
I’ve been thinking about gifts for the mothers for the wedding and wondering what an appropriate gift is and an appropriate amount to spend on it.
A little background information: My Future Mother-In-Law is dramatic and knowingly causes a lot of problems for FH and me. I am not a huge fan of her, but know that I still need to get her and Future Father-In-Law a little something for the day.
My mom and dad have been great throughout the process of wedding planning. They are paying for a substantial amount and have been supportive in everything. Completely opposite of FH’s parents who are not paying a single dime and have backed out of numerous things after telling us they would help. And the reasoning was meant to make us feel guilty (I.E. it was too much for us to ask, even though they offered and they just don’t want to anymore, etc.).
So I’m wondering if it’s okay to spend less on them than on my parents?
Post # 3
We gave them the same gifts- a card with our heartfelt thoughts and an IOU for a parents album.
That was for my first wedding. For my second wedding, both of our parents are dead so it was no longer a concern.
Post # 4
Does your fiancé want his parents to receive a cheaper gift?
Personally I think it would be petty to get them a gift that isn’t as nice as the one you are getting for your own parents because they aren’t contributing to your wedding with cash or labour.
Plus if you are presenting them at the wedding it will be awkward.
Post # 5
LOL I mean if someone can’t afford something but are contributing in other ways, but in this case, they aren’t. I would be miffed too for sure.
BUT since it’s fi’s family I would discuss with him and see what his thougths are. Honestly, he probably knows his parents are shady AF and is probably embarrassed so its not like you -should- have to spell it out for him.
I would just ask him what his thoughts were and then just do the same/similar for them. And if YOU want to do something special for your parents, Im all for it, but then it doesnt like illuminate the fact that they are shady AF at the gift giving session.
I hope that helps..
Post # 6
We spent slightly less on my in law’s gifts than my parents gifts – but we shopped like it was their birthday (ie something we thought they’d really like), so it wasn’t intentionally different despite my parents spending nearly 3x as much as my in laws. They were all delighted with their gifts (and wedding albums have us sorted for Christmas presents! 👍)