Post # 1
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Worker bee
I was talking with a coworker today who is invited to a friend’s (Lisa) wedding this July. Lisa is known to never give wedding gifts to people in her and my co-worker’s group of friends. My co-worker will not be attending Lisa’s wedding, and asked me what she should give as a gift. I told her I would probably not send a gift, as they are never necessary, and based on Lisa not giving gifts, gifts are probably not a big deal for Lisa. Do you think I gave good or bad advice?
Post # 2
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546 posts
Busy bee
If you’re not attending the wedding, you don’t have to send a gift. (You don’t even HAVE to bring a gift even if you attend, but it’s polite since they’re hosting you.) Especially if it’s just a coworker. I don’t think what “Lisa” gives or doesn’t give matters.
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
Normally, I would say that what the other person gives or doesn’t give as a wedding gift should not be a consideration, but if she is well known for not gifting co-workers who are getting married, it doesn’t seem reasonable for her to expect gifts on the occasion of her wedding.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
determinedtobee: I agree, no gift is necessary. Not in a malicious way or anything, just that gifts probably aren’t a big deal to her. Just a genuine congratulations, and you’re good to go! 🙂
Post # 5
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Worker bee
Fizzy8: I agree. Some people really care about gifts, and other people don’t care at all. I told my co-worker that if she was going, I’d bring a gift, but considering she’s not going because she’s due with her second child around the wedding date, I told her I don’t think she needs to send a gift.