- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I have an exe who doesn’t quite seem to get that I don’t really want anything to do with him. Not only does he talk to my FH and have awkward conversations with him, insisting that we should all hang out together.
This seems to have triggered once we offically announced our engagement on FB. Although we’re both not friends and both have private profiles, he found out through the friend proxy somehow. The moment we announced it, he immediately texted me congradulations and that we should hang out sometime. I ignored it.
FH is aware that I do not wish to remain in contact, however my ex and him work in the same building. Although they are not in the same department, the ex does go out of his way to visit him and FH is polite but not encouraging in conversation.
Now the Ex has recently given FH & myself a really expensive gift from one of my favorite artists. Not only is it an really rare print, he somehow got a personal hand written note from the artist that congradulates us on our engagement.
Seem innocent? Years ago when we were involved, he gave me a print before and it was an inside joke between us. Something that FH wouldn’t understand.
Part of me wants to think this is a friendly segway into a friendship, but I can’t help feeling like it’s not. I just don’t feel comfortable receiving gifts from him.
FH seems to think that it’s weird, but he’s confident about my feelings for him and is aware that no exes are any threat to our relationship. He knows how hard the break-up was and that I don’t want anything to do with him.
By The Way: Ex and I did not break up gracefully. It was not a nice break up and I left him for a lot of personal reasons.
When the ex and I broke up, our friends made their own decisions and parted ways with him. To explain, the ex made a lot of bad choices in the last few years and pushed everyone away in the process. A lot of our friends are seeing that he’s regretting his decisions and trying to make amends. A close mutual friend told me that basically, he’s realizing that the years that we were together were the best years of his life and he’s trying to get those years back.
I would be frank with him and let him know to please just stop with this ridiculousness, as I’ve ignored all of his texts, AIMs, phone calls. I figured he would get the picture. But apparently, no. Please know, I do forgive him, but I don’t forget and I don’t want him in my life to put any kind of further awkwardness in me & FH’s life.
I am also thinking about just gathering all of the things he’s given me from our relationship and boxing it in a non-return addressed box and sending it back to him. I figure that would get the point accross without causing some weird tension.
Does this seem like a good idea or does anyone have any suggeestions?