Post # 1
This is probably a silly question. But if you parents are helping you pay for the wedding, is that considered your wedding gift? Or would you still expect a present from the parents?
In my case, pretty much everyone is helping out in some way for the wedding financially. (Dad is paying the bulk, and my mother, future in-laws and I are spliting up the rest)
This makes me sound really greedy, but its not that I care either way, it just occured to me that I’m not sure what the standard is.
How did it work for you guys?
Post # 3
You shouldn’t evpect gifts period (according to wedding “rules”). Our parents did a mix. My mom contributed to the wedding and still gave us a present. My dad contributed and did not give a present. My Father-In-Law both contributed and gave a present.
It’s all up to what people can afford. If someone is giving you thousands of dollars for your wedding, I think it would be a little selfish to expect a gift on top of that.
Post # 4
My mom paid for our venue rental and my dress. That was her wedding gift to us. We did not receive any other gift from her.
DH’s parents did not contribute to our wedding. The did throw the rehearsal dinner. They gave us a cash gift.
Post # 5
I would never in a million years expect a gift from my parents ontop of them helping pay for our wedding. My parents are paying for our reception which is roughly half of the total wedding cost. This is their gift to us. On the other hand, FI’s parents are paying for the flowers and rehearsal dinner and I know they are still going to give is a gift, even though it’s totally not necessary. FI’s brother was married last year and that is what they did for them. In FI’s family they are very “what one son gets, the other son gets”. That’s the only reason I know what to expect.
Post # 6
My parents paid for pretty much our entire wedding. They also purchased us the largest gift at my shower.
DH’s parents paid for the entire rehearsal dinner and booked our honeymoon cruise for us as a wedding present.