Post # 1
So first question is do parents normally give some form of a wedding gift to the kids if they ARE NOT paying for the wedding? Because my dad and step mom and his parents did and I am wondering if this is normal. I thought they would at least give us a card but neither has and I don’t think are planning on it. (Yes, I know it was just this weekend).
Second part, his parents had told us months back that in place of a wedding gift they would pay $500 to board our 2 dogs while we had to be away for the wedding. We told them it was too much to cover that much and we wanted to see about getting someone to watch them at home. We got someone to watch them at home for only $250 instead. However, we have since come home and they haven’t offered up the money so we covered it. Do we ask them for the money since they said they would cover it or do we just ignore that they said they planned on paying for it?
ETA: I am not sure if that sounded right. Do I ask them if they are still paying for the dogs? Not like hey why didn’t you get something. I am not asking my dad at all.
Post # 3
Its weird that they didnt get you a card or something, but no, dont say anything. Why even bring up something that is over and done with. Its just going to bring up drama. Just enjoy married life and have fun getting settled in your new life 😀
Post # 4
As much as I would want to say something, I probably wouldn’t. It’s tough. I’m really shocked that you two didn’t receive anything for the parents. I always thought parents were the first to buy and/or offer money if they could. Sorry to hear that people lacked in that department. I know it’s not all about presents and stuff, but it is thoughtful.
Post # 5
I would absolutely want to say something but I can’t think of any way to do it with out sounding rude. Maybe I would slip in something sly to the parents about the dog sitters, “the dog sitters said…” and see how they respond? If they say nothing then they clearly don’t want to pay. As for your parents, I guess it depends on the relationship. If they didn’t pay for anything for the wedding, I would have expected something too. I would say something to my mom, but I know everyone’s relationship is different.