Post # 1
We received gifts from 3 different people who weren’t invited to the wedding. One was my grandma’s cousin, the other was an old coworker of my MIL, the third was a foreign exchange student we had long ago who lives in Eastern Europe.
Do we acknowledge that we couldn’t invite them? I’m not worried about the exchange student, but the first two I am wondering about. What do we say? We invited 232 people and 120 came, so we totally could’ve invited them, we just decided we couldn’t invite all of our parents’ old coworkers – just the close ones, and I don’t think I’ve met my grandma’s cousin more than once.
Post # 3
Just say that was very kind and generous for her to think if you guys and you appreciate the lovely XYZ gift!
No need to do any explaining.
I got several gifts and we eloped. I didn’t go into why we eloped and didn’t have a guest wedding.
Post # 4
They didn’t give a gift expecting an explanation about why they weren’t invited. They gave a gift because they’re truly happy for you. Like Sienna said, just thank thank them for the gift and for thinking of you.
Post # 5
I agree with @sienna76:. Simply thank them for their wonderful gifts and tell how much you and your DH appreciate their thoughtfulness.
These kind, generous individuals gave you gifts in celebration of your marriage, not your wedding, so there is no need to try to explain to them any of the details regarding your decisions about your guest list. 🙂
Post # 6
PPs: +1 Just write the same note you are for the rest and make sure they know you appreciate their thoughtful and generous gift.
Post # 7
Just send them a card thanking them politely and I agree no explination necessary
Post # 8
We’ve gotten quite a few gifts from people who weren’t invited, some of them pretty substantial gifts. i felt weird at first, and guilty for not inviting them, but I have been assured that they didn’t expect an invite but just felt like giving us something (or in some cases are returning the generosity of my parents who gave them or their children a wedding gift). I just wrote something like this:
We were delighted to recieve the whatever you sent us. Statement about how we’re using it or displaying it or whatever. We appreciate your thoughfulness and generosity more than we can say.
We hope see you soon.
ProfessorGirl and HerBoy
Post # 9
They sound just honestly truly happy for you. Thank them for the sweet thoughts and leave it at that.