(Closed) Gifts from people not invited: help w/Thank Yous!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6122 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just say that was very kind and generous for her to think if you guys and you appreciate the lovely XYZ gift!

No need to do any explaining.

I got several gifts and we eloped.  I didn’t go into why we eloped and didn’t have a guest wedding.

Post # 4
4414 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

They didn’t give a gift expecting an explanation about why they weren’t invited. They gave a gift because they’re truly happy for you.  Like Sienna said, just thank thank them for the gift and for thinking of you.  



Post # 5
11436 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with @sienna76:. Simply thank them for their wonderful gifts and tell how much you and your Darling Husband appreciate their thoughtfulness. 

These kind, generous individuals gave you gifts in celebration of your marriage, not your wedding, so there is no need to try to explain to them any of the details regarding your decisions about your guest list. 🙂

Post # 6
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

PPs: +1 Just write the same note you are for the rest and make sure they know you appreciate their thoughtful and generous gift.

Post # 7
650 posts
Busy bee

Just send them a card thanking  them politely and I agree no explination necessary

Post # 8
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We’ve gotten quite a few gifts from people who weren’t invited, some of them pretty substantial gifts. i felt weird at first, and guilty for not inviting them, but I have been assured that they didn’t expect an invite but just felt like giving us something (or in some cases are returning the generosity of my parents who gave them or their children a wedding gift). I just wrote something like this:

Dear X,

We were delighted to recieve the whatever you sent us. Statement about how we’re using it or displaying it or whatever. We appreciate your thoughfulness and generosity more than we can say. 

We hope see you soon. 

Much love,

ProfessorGirl and HerBoy

Post # 9
10452 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

They sound just honestly truly happy for you. Thank them for the sweet thoughts and leave it at that.

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