Post # 1
Hi guys! Thanks for taking the time to help me out with this!
I always hear about gifts to the wedding party, and we’ve picked out some great gifts for our attendants. But does the wedding party also give gifts to the bride and groom, or is their time and dedication considered the gift?
Post # 3
No one is really expected to give gifts to the bride and groom, but I’ve personally never heard of the wedding party not getting the couple a gift.
Post # 4
I’d say it depends on the individuals in your wedding party. For those that are strapped for cash, spending the money on their attire and the time to be at all your wedding events is their gift to you. But for others they’ll get you something else as well. It’s not expected of them to give gifts. So if they don’t, just appreciate their presence at your wedding as gift enough. And if they do give you gifts, then yay!!!
Post # 5
It depends, because if they have put in a lot of money, time, and effort planning bachelor/bachelorette parties and showers and given gifts for those, then I wouldn’t expect additional gifts on top of that. It’s hard to say! Also, if they have spent significant amounts of money on hotel and travel to get to your wedding, I wouldn’t expect a gift on top of that.
Post # 6
My Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister) and my other bridesmaids (my FI’s sisters) are getting us gifts. The groomsmen aren’t, which is fine. They’re all our age, and one of them is currently out of work (thank you MI!!), so we told them we don’t expect or want anything. I’m guessing their going to pay for my FI’s bachelor party, which is fine with him, and that’ll be their gift to us.
Post # 7
My fiance and I not only give gifts when we are in weddings, but we also always give MORE than we would normally. I know it’s a lot because you spend a lot when you’re in a wedding too, but the thing is, (MOST of the time!) when you’re asked to be in a wedding, you are very close to the bride, groom, or couple. We think closeness ups the ante for how much we want to give, hence, we give more.
I’ve never heard of wedding party attendees skipping the gift, and at first I would be kind of offended (based on OUR theory!) but on second thought, it really is such an expense to be in the wedding that a lot of people might want that to be the gift itself. And that is really what matters after all, so it makes sense!