Post # 1
So my Fiance and I are eloping on Dec 19th, and then after that, my family wants to celebrate at our regular family Christmas. My aunt asked me to put together a list of gift possibilities…
Problem is, neither of us really want anything, or have anything we really need for the household. I don’t want to seem rude, or ungrateful to my family, but the only thing we could think of was that we’re saving for a house, and would like help in that regard. But we’d really rather not end up with more material items that we don’t really need, and would honestly rather not get gifts..
Anyone have any suggestions about how to word this back to my aunt? Should I mention the house thing?
FI’s idea was we just say we don’t really want anything because we are saving for a house and don’t want to have a lot of clutter right now, or along that line but more elegantly.
Post # 3
If you really do not want anything, you could ask that donations be made to a charity of your choosing. OR I believe that there is a registry called hatchmyhouse.com where donations can be made be home savings. 🙂 Good luck and congratulations!
Post # 4
If you don’t want physical gifts, don’t ask for anything. (I wouldn’t call it clutter. Your family and friends might find that term a bit offensive.)
Tell your aunt that you have the basics that you need right now, that you don’t have room to store physical gifts and that you are saving to buy a house. She will pass the word.
Post # 5
@julies1949: Yeah I agree about the clutter, like I said that’s just what he said when we were talking, I would never put it that way to my family.
Thanks for your suggestions!
Post # 6
We’re not having a “physical” list and have instead set up an IKEA gift account for donations. We put a note in the invitatios saying that as we bought our house 2 years ago, it’s in need of some TLC and we would like to put in a new kitchen. The IKEA money will go towards the kitchen units, and then it there is and left over towards bookshelves for the dining room.
At one point my grandparents still want to get us “physical” gifts, so we thought of a couple of things we might want (a Le Creuset cast iron casserole dish and a cutlery set) but once they heard the explanation they were more than happy to contirbute to the kitchen fund.
I think just say to them that you really want to settle down shortly after you’re married and it’s important to you that you purchase a family home, so contiributions towards that would be gratefully received.