Post # 1
I just got an email from Macy’s letting me know that one of our guests had purchased a backordered gift for us. It’s not scheduled to arrive until November. My question is when do I send the thank you?? Now? After the wedding (October 6th)? Or once I’ve received the gift? I don’t want them to think I’ve forgotten about it, but at the same time I think it’s a little strange to thank them immediately because even if it was shipped to my house, I still wouldn’t have gotten it by now.
Post # 3
@chloeburch: I’m wondering about this, too. I’ve heard that you should send a note after the gift is received. Otherwise, how would the giver know if it never arrives? What have others done?
Post # 4
I would just send the Thank You card now (or sometime soon) rather than waiting (especially since that will be quite a long time away). I’m assuming that the giver isn’t going to cancel the order prior to November (and that wouldn’t be very nice anyway). However, if you are planning to do photo Thank You cards, you can technically wait until after the wedding to send it out (but do it ASAP after the wedding).
If the gift does not arrive, you already know it is supposed to arrive (e.g. retailer’s email/registry completion date) so if UPS/FedEx loses it, you can always call the retailer and get the status. For example, we had an item on backorder and they didn’t notify us. I took note of when it showed up in my Thank You manager as being completed, waited a few weeks, and then called the retailer, who told me it was on backorder and is now on the way.