Post # 1
Friday I came home from a long day of work to dicsover a large Crate & Barrel package on our doorstep!!!!
I was so excited-I wasn’t expecting it at all.
‘Don’t open until the wedding” ettique aside…we opened it. Now I’m not sure if it was a gift intended for the bridal shower (coming up in a few weeks), or the wedding?
I checked out the C&B guestbook and my cousin addressed it To (future) Mr Mrs, from [their family name], so is it safe to assume it’s a wedding gift, since it was addressed to both of us from both of them?
And, I know this has been talked about a bunch, but opinions always differ-does the thank you card go out now, or after the wedding? Thanks!
Post # 4
I sent thank you cards right away, I didn’t want to take the chance and forget.
Post # 5
That’s true. I’d like to send the card this week.
If this were you, would you think it is a bridal shower gift, or a wedding gift?
Post # 6
Just me, but I would think it was a wedding gift. If it was more than $100, definitely a wedding gift. It it was closer to $50, probably a shower gift.
Post # 7
I would just send a Thank You card now. I think it’s a wedding gift because in my circle, people usually hand-deliver/gift in person the shower gift (assuming they are attending) but will send/have delivered the wedding gift.
I opened all of our gifts pre-wedding but I didn’t use any of them until afterwards.
Post # 8
Wedding gift….when I got shower gifts via mail, they said “happy shower” or something and were just from the female.
Send card now. I did that and it saved me a TON of time after the wedding!
Post # 9
I don’t think it matters what the price is. If the giver was invited to a shower I would assume it is a shower gift unless told otherwise. I would wait until the shower to open and use it just in case. I have received a lot of very expensive shower gifts so you just never know!
Post # 10
She lives about 6 hours away so I know she will not be attending the shower. Since it shipped directly from C&B there was no card or anything on it, just the To and From. But when I checked the registry guestbook, it was something along the lines of ‘Congrats Mr & Mrs’ From ‘Cousin Family’.
Typically a shower gift is from a female to the bride, right? But I know they are going to be attending the wedding. So, I will be sending the thank you note, I’m just not sure if it should be addressed to both of them, from both of us?
Post # 11
Its easier to keep up on cards, if you do them as you receive gifts.
Also lets the give know you received the present.
Post # 12
I agree. If it were a shower gift, it would be addressed to the Bride only. The fact that they sent it to Bride and Groom, I would assume it is a Wedding gift. Also, since they are family, if it were a gift to the bridal shower, I am sure someone would have contacted you to say “hey, don’t open it and bring it to the shower,” or they would have sent it to another family memebers house to bring to the shower. So, yes it is a wedding gift.