Post # 1
I am stuck at a cross road.
For some time now when you receive a wedding invitation in Jamaica it contains information on the bridal registry. 99% of the time this card will have an account number for those guest who wishes to give monetary gifts.
My problem is I don’t like it. My Maid/Matron of Honor, who recently got married said its the way to go. My Aunt who got married some 14 years ago said she got 5 blenders and if she was getting married agin she would go with the registry at the bank.
This is the norm in Jamaica, I don’t know what to do.
I know my English relatives would frown on this idea, but the Jamaicans living in the US are use to it and wouldn’t mind.
Post # 3
I don’t see any reason why you can’t have both. Just put in a note saying that in keeping with Jamaican tradition you have registered at the bank if guests wish to contribute a monetary gift. For those guests wishing to forgo that tradition you’ll also be registering at Bed Bath and Beyond. I’d definitely include note because I could see how it could be misconstrued by those outside of that culture. Maybe not use the words I put exactly but something that would convey that idea.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t put a bank account number on there.. i don’t know what it is but asking for money directly from guests comes off as rude to me. Not that you are, just that I have read a few posts about that sort of thing and a lot of people don’t really like it.
Then again its your wedding so really you should jsut do what you feel is right.
Post # 5
why don’t you use depositagift.com?
Post # 6
You should totally use depositagift.com! That’s what we’re using and it works really well.Your Jamaican friends will be cool with it because it basically lets you give cash, and your English friends will like it too because it’s just like a traditional registry. You set it up like you would at any other store, add absolutley anything to it, and when your friends buy you a gift, they’re really just sending you cash. Works great!
Post # 7
I also think something you do is not give the English people that information, and just give it to people who know or understand the tradition!
Post # 8
An aunt of mine gave me a magazine today with this ad.
She said and i quote. ‘Nothing wrong with giving money instead of a gift people don’t have the time to go shopping for a gift. Get with it, it’s the “IN THING”
Thanks for the help my fellow bees, and TwoCityBride i like your suggestion
Post # 9
I think you can find a way to do both…however, I don’t think having a registry will prevent people from giving cash or vice versa….if it’s the norm than I say go for it!