(Closed) Gifts With No Names??!! How to find out who they’re from…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

If it’s from a place where you are actually registered, they should have the purchase on file and be able to tell you. We sort of had this happen to us and we decided that if we didn’t know for sure a gift was from a particular guest, we would write a Thank You card just for attending the wedding and figured they would contact us and ask if we got their gift.

Post # 4
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would opt against sending an e-mail asking if the gift were from them. To me it would seem like a chastisement for NOT bringing a gift even though your intentions really were to find the giver of the mystery gift. I like the suggestion of thanking them for being a part of your wedding and then perhaps next time you see some of the people in person you could mention some of the lovely gifts you got and how disappointed you were to not be able to properly thank them because there wasn’t a card.

Post # 6
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

After the wedding is over, there is no way to find that out. It’s considered rude to ask folks what they gave you. This is why at the gift table, there needs to be someone armed with scotch tape to secure the cards to the gifts. Just send out thank you cards to everyone for attending if you didn’t get a gift from them.

Post # 7
433 posts
Helper bee

I think those are good ideas and smart ways to handle this situation:

Thank your no gift/unknown gift guests for coming to the wedding, and if they are worried about the gift they gave they will either ask you or ask a relative or someone else and word will get back to you.

When you see these guests or people associated with them bring up the anonymous gifts and maybe they can shed some light on the subject.

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