(Closed) girl friends giving your SO grief about not proposing?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d be pretty pissed. It is not my friends’ places to pressure my SO into proposing. I would definitely tell them to back off, in good humor or not.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Agree with @Hyperventilate: . I would be super annoyed. It’s no one’s business and it comes across as a criticism towards my man which is not cool with me. Everyone’s timeline is different and I think it’s awful that friends would put pressure on their friends SOs. Out of line!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Hyperventilate:  +1

It’s one thing for you and your girlfriends to talk about that kind of thing away from your SO, but it’s incredibly rude for them to pressure him into proposing. I guarantee you he hates it, and is probably only thinking less and less of your friends the more it happens. It doesn’t matter how easy going he is, guys absolutely hate that.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

..I’ve only done this one time…and that was because the guy said that once they got a place together and moved in, it would be proposal time, then he was stalling and being a dick about it…and it was hurting her.  So I said pretty nicely I thought, “You know, no one likes fucking a welcher.”

He proposed two weeks later.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My family did this to my Fiance before we were engaged. Now they do the same thing, but about having a baby. It is all in fun. I don’t view it as them pressuring him. Fiance always plays along. We are planning on TTC soon, so those comments aren’t anything that would scare him off. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would be really embarrassed if someone did this to me.  My friends would say stuff to me privately, but never in front of him.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@badabing88:  I understand, it’s secretly exciting to know someone is on your side, but no matter what we want to think, having your friends say those things will absolutely not make him propose sooner. It will just irritate him. I asked my SO for the guy’s perspective and he confirms lol. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Once isn’t really that big of a deal, but you might let them know they probaby shouldn’t do it again. Good luck!

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@badabing88:  I get it, having someone in your corner.

But it’s no different than someone going, “Aw come on! Have a baby! It’s great!” Or, “Why haven’t you had a baby yet? What’s the hold up! Jeeze, get on that already!”

These sort of things are not appropriate to be said to people outside closed doors.

Edit: My husband read this thread over my shoulder. He goes, “oh I bet her boyfriend fucking loved that…” then shook his head and walked away. Figured a man’s input would be nice.

Post # 16
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Busy bee

@badabing88:  haha, I just say that both him and I are concentrated on our careers now. When it comes, it’ll come lol

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