Post # 1
I guess I am not looking for advice with this…..just wanted to share with someone. All girls who have been cheated on will get a kick out of this. I can’t share this with family or friends because its just something very much in the past and will seem like I still stew over it. Which I honestly truly don’t and don’t want to give off this impression at all.
Quick back story: My fiance and I dated on and off throughout college. I found out acouple years post college that he cheated on me in college with the girl I suspected. It was a really bad time and we broke up. Over the next 4 years he tried to get me back and never stopped. We ended up getting back together and are in a really great place now and he proposed recently. I of course spent years looking at this girls facebook or googling her, all that stuff you just can’t help but do. Just looking at her photos wondering what was so special about her, etc etc. But, like I said, we’re in a great place now and I don’t think about her or that anymore. I have truly forgiven him.
Anywho, pretty funny…the other day, I was on my pinterest…which let me say, I do not use my real name or photo on pinterest. I took off the google engine search option as well so my profile doesn’t show up even if you google my user name. So I am on pinterest and get one of those notifications that a user has started following my boards. And its her. I’m instantly like, woahhh..haha!…how they heck did she find me!?! And was quite amused that she was obviously stalking my pinterest boards. I was trying to figure out how she found me…I googled my own name and found that my sister’s pinterest page pops up as a result (on the second result page…so she had to of scrolled a bit) and if you click on my sisters page, then we are linked. And even at that point, its not obvious its me, I mean it is, but you have to at least know some stuff about me to figure out its me, so she took the time. So, she had to of been actively looking for me online STILL! Mind you its been 7 years since their “incident” and they haven’t spoken in probably a good 5 years. I just had to chuckle at that….she is obviously still unhappy in her life if she still thinks about me or finds the need to look at me online. But, then when I clicked on her profile, I realized she unfollowed me already…so I think she accidently clicked follow, which actually is pretty easy on pinterest, I’ve accidently followed people as well….so I am sure she was thinking “oh crap!” But one of my boards is “I am engaged!” Sooo she knows we’re engaged now.
Just wanted to share this chuckle of a story with people!
Post # 3
@blushpink10: hahaha! Awkward for her!
Post # 5
@blushpink10: Maybe she liked the stuff you pinned and THEN realized “OMG, I know who that it”
Post # 6
She pretty good at the stalking thing. Sometimes it’s just fun to stalk people to see how far into their live syou can get.
Makes me wonder how anyone who tries to be a private detective these days even can make any money, not that it was ever a lucrative field.
Post # 7
@blushpink10: when I joined Pinterest, it automatically had me “follow” people… I never clicked to follow, I think maybe it asked a question about finding people to follow and then it just added a bunch of people. It somehow knows if you have mutual friends or are in a similar area, etc. Could that be what happened? I don’t really know how Pinterest works because I’m rarely on there, but just a thought.
Post # 8
Haha… I love this.
A while before I met my SO he had a thing going with a girl. They obviously liked each other but a relationship never developed and she eventually went overseas to study. She eventually moved back home and started asking my SO’s buddies about me. On top of that, we ran into each other at the hairdresser and started chatting (she is cool). She kept mentioning things I never told her e.g. the other name I go by etc. By the time I got home, she had already sent me a friend request on fb. Talk about ego boost!
Post # 9
Ha! I bet her face was a picture when she realised her mistake…
My ex-boyfriend’s wife was always a bit paranoid about me. She was Facebook stalking me for a while and accidentally sent a friend request! It came through on my phone and by the time I’d got to a laptop to check it was actually her, it had disappeared. It’s quite sad really, given that they’re married now and I dumped the guy 4 years ago.
Post # 10
@blushpink10: Omg I have this problem with a girl that my ex was previously engaged to!!!!!!! She’s literally a stalker!!!!!!!
Post # 11
@blushpink10: first of all, you don’t know for sure that she was stalking you. Like someone else mentioned, pinterest had me follow mutual acquaintances that I had never clicked on. Secondly and more importantly, you sound way too smug about the whole thing. How do you know that her life is pathetic? Why do you care? Sounds to me like there’s a not so small part of you that’s still upset about your fiance cheating on you with that girl and now you want her to suffer. She’s a pathetic stalker, after all. But she’s not your problem, your fiance is.
Post # 12
I would never stay with a cheater, but my FI’s ex was quite obsessed with both of us for awhile. I put a stop to that 😛
Post # 13
@Janielum: no, I don’t know for sure. I never said her life was pathetic or used the word pathetic at all in my post nor said anything about how I wish her life was full of suffering, I don’t wish that on anyone. I said she must be unhappy in her life if she still feels the need to look at me online years later. I can see how this would sound like I’m not over it, I didn’t seek this girl out, just something that happened whether intentional or not and yea I’m human, so I got a chuckle out of it and wanted to share with someone.
@abigailelizabeth919: good point, it couldve been an automatic follow for sure, but it was only one board in specific, it wasn’t following me entirely. I think the auto add via FB is for following someone in general and not specific boards, but I’m not 100% sure, but we’re not FB friends, but do have some friends in common. something to think about for sure!
Just seems a little coincidental thats all! Thanks for all the comments back ladies! I enjoyed reading them.