(Closed) Girl is obsessed with my FI and me…HELP!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What should I do about this girl?
    Disinvite her from the wedding and end the friendship : (82 votes)
    65 %
    Confront her and try to talk to her about it, make decision about wedding invite after that : (19 votes)
    15 %
    Don't confront her, don't disinvite her...just ignore it : (21 votes)
    17 %
    Other (please explain below) : (4 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    87 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    For now, ignore it.  Just stop talking to her.  Be vague about your plans, stop hanging out with her.  She’ll eventully wander off

    Post # 4
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    9642 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @taraesque:  +1.  She sounds mentally unstable, to say the least.  I would stay away from her.

    Post # 5
    Member
    4868 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Personally, I’d confront her. Flirting with your FH? Punching him in the face? Ordering you around? Not. Cool. She needs to be put in her place and told to back off.

     

    Post # 6
    Member
    3195 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @CandieC88:  this person might be a serial killer in the making.

    just kidding.

    but seriously.

    Post # 7
    Member
    8461 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @CandieC88:  Wow, she’s crazy.  Not a just a little bit, plus she’s prone to violent outbrusts, so I would probably not consider her friend material.

    Post # 8
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    2376 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Honestly, I wouldn’t care WHAT her issue was, that’s her problem.  I’d cut her out and stop bringing her when you go out.  Don’t talk to her about your plans, if she keeps pushing and showing up, tell her she’s not invited. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    187 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    if anyone laid a finger on me or my fiance that friendship would be over. you don’t have to explain yourself just simply stop hanging out with her or givng her details to your whereabouts

    Post # 10
    Member
    446 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    She sounds really immature.  I noticed girls doing this in middle school, high school & even some in college, but they all eventually grew out of it.  I would just ignore her, but I might consider uninviting her to the wedding… she seems weird.

    Post # 11
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    2651 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I generally have  one rule about things like this. If someone punches me or my Fiance in the face, we are no longer friends.  I don’t care how drunk you were, you don’t do shit like that.

    Do not pass go. Do not collect 200$. Do not come to my wedding. You’re done. Buh-bye weirdo.

     

    Post # 12
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    1358 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    WOAH. I was going to suggest you break all ties and tell Fiance to make sure she understands that her behavior is not acceptable or appropriate, but then I got to the part about her being physically violent.

     

    I would cut ties and tell her never to come near you or Fiance again, nor make any attempt to contact you or you will press charges for assault and have a restraining order filed. Get any documentation of her behavior that you can because she seems likely to fly off the handle and seek some kind of revenge, like slashing your tires or something. I would also definitely make sure she’s not invited to the wedding and make it abundantly clear she’s not welcome, then make sure your venue(s) know there might be a crazy girl showing up and trying to start trouble and to be prepared to escort her out. This is not a friend and neither of you seem to want her in your lives.

    Post # 13
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    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I would first decide if you want to continue this relationship.  Ignoring this will do nothing because she has already demonstrated she can’t take any kind of hint and has no idea what normal, healthy boundaries.

    Once you decide on whether or not you want to continue the friendship, confront her.  Either tell her why it won’t work and the friendship is over, or tell her what the problems are, come up with acceptable solutions and see how it goes.

    Once you figure out how that plays out you can decide if you are still friends.  if you are, invite her.  If you aren’t, don’t invite her.

    Deal with the relationship first and take the wedding out of it.  That way you get to the heart of the problem and come to a resolution.

    Post # 14
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    2831 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I would say cut her out completely. SHE PUNCHED YOUR Fiance IN THE FACE! She has some major issues.

    Post # 15
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    1459 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

    She punched your FI?? I think she just uninvited herself to your wedding :3

     

    If it were just everything else then I’d probably suggest backing of slowly, but assulting your man deserves a quick clean break.

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