- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I didn’t read all the replies but this is what I would do in your shoes. I would contact the roommates and talk to them about the situation. Let them know you are ending the friendship with her and why. Then I would send the follwing letter to her. Certified mail so you know she got it. Or just walk up and hand it to her, say, “I think you know why it has to be this way” Then walk away.
Fiance and I both find your behaviour very inappropriate and no longer feel you are an asset to our lives. Though the flirting with Fiance may have seemed harmless it has made us both uncomfortable and you were oblivious to the ques to back off. Punching Fiance in the face was our last straw. We are moving on with our lives and feel you are a negative weight we must get rid of before we take this next step. Please consider this and do not show up at our wedding, you will be escorted off the property if you do. If you decide to go against our wishes and try to contact either of us we will be forced to press assault charges against you as well as a restraining order. We do not wish you ill harm and hope you go on to have a happy fulfilled life. We just no longer want to be a party of it.
Make sure to keep a copy for yourselves so if you were to get in a situation you would have proof you tried to break it off cordially.
She sounds like she is showing symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder.
That said, that’s not your problem, especially if she doesn’t realize she has issues and refuses to get treated for them.
If she is being violent to you, she does not belong at your wedding. Plus, do you want to risk her standing up during the “does anyone object” part?!
@CandieC88: Um……she punched your Fiance, and is still allowed to be around y’all? Hell no. And her lack of socially acceptable behavior is not a good enough reason to take pity on her and be her friend. Honestly, if she goes to the wedding, what is she going to do? Walk down the aisle after you and squish herself between the bride and groom like a clingy 3 year old? Repeat the vows after you do? Speak, lest she forever have to hold her peace? She’s a ticking time bomb, and weddings are NOT the place to go off in. Good luck in dealing with her. Just stop hanging out with her, if she tries to invite herself, stop her with a “No. This is xxx and xxx and I time ONLY.”
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