(Closed) Girl that nearly ruined my wedding is getting married…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1086 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

She is the reason I don’t hang around many females. Girls like her. Nasty.

I’m sorry you’re having to go through with this.

If it were me I’d only go to the wedding if invited and say a congratulations but that’s it. She will likely say nasty things about that, you know “She was mean to me at my own wedding! She almost ruined my wedding” blah blah blah. But the more you talk to or interact with this girl the more ammo she has to use against you. I’d just leave her be and let her be an angry hateful person on her own.

Don’t let it bother you and anything she says just let it roll off your back. For her to dislike you without even knowing you shows she has some serious issues. I wouldn’t give anything she says any thought.

Although if it were me at a younger age, in my early twenties I’d be spiteful and act EXACTLY how she acted during my wedding. But I try not to be spiteful and stir the pot anymore. But back in  my day I would have done to her what she’d done to me if I were in your shoes.

Post # 4
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3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m surprised she would stay FB friends with you if she disagreed about how much of a crazy bitch you are. *eyeroll*

I had something similar to me. My DHs best friends wife was apparently upset that she wasn’t invited to the bachelorette (it was a mud run then a stay at a cabin, she’s not very athletic and we are NOT close….why would I invite her?). I only invited my BMs. Anywhoo, shewhat the nerve to talk about this AT my wedding, near my BMs. I found out about a month after the wedding, talked it over with my husband who talked to his best friend. She denied. Whatever. I haven’t seen her since and I don’t care to try to salvage the relationship. I don’t need people like that in my life and neither do you. Be civil, and move on. That is your only option. I would find a way to discreetly get her off your FB though. Ew. What a fake.

Post # 5
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@SoonToBeMrsMoose:  I personally would not attend the wedding and when Darling Husband and this friend get together, I would let him go alone and make sure they meet up at bars and restaurants while I stayed home.

I have not time for bullcrap in my life. Period. I feel sorry for her Fiance. She sounds just wonderful *eyeroll*

If it ever comes up why you are distancing yourself, confront DH’s friend yourself, tell him all she’s done, and you do not have tolerance for her childish behavior.

 

Post # 6
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116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@LuvMySailor:  This. I would do this too–avoid her at all costs. I don’t have time for women who still act like girls, I’m too busy living my life. If it’s something you can’t get out of, I would do what you have already suggested and pop by, say congratulations, and then proceed not to give a crap. The apathy will kill her more than the possibility of your being nasty to her.

Post # 7
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7992 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Send her a congratulations card, and then avoid her at all costs. Make up some fake work appointments, or something. If you hang around her, she’ll only keep bitching.

Post # 8
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4275 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Eh just take the high road and tell her congrats. Other then that….don’t worry about going out of your way to be nice to her. Just ignore.

Post # 9
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4313 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You really don’t even know each other.  All this judgement on both sides for no reason at all.  I would give her a genuine chance.  Who knows what could happen.

Post # 10
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3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Wow, this whole situation sounds like high school to me!

Post # 11
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3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@SoonToBeMrsMoose:  so she’s marrying one of your husband’s good friends. You can’t just NOT go if he wants to. Be the bigger perosn and congratulate them. If your Darling Husband wants to go to the wedding then go. Enjoy the free food and dancing, and then move on with your life. There is ALWAYS someone in your life that you don’t like. And since your Darling Husband is friends with her soon to be husband, you can’t just kick her out of your life without the chance of ruining your husband’s friendship.

Post # 12
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6359 posts
Bee Keeper

I would not go to any pre-parties and probably let H go alone to her wedding. I might join him if I really thought I would enjoy myself (you said mutual friends would probably go), but not if I thought it would just cause me stress.

Post # 13
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3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Woodstock:  Not true! Read mine. They are still super close, we just don’t do any double dates. It can work out just fine. And me and her husband are still cool too. 

Post # 16
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7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think you’re being overdramatic here. She didn’t almost ruin your wedding, she just left early and took some friends with her. 

If you don’t like her, be nice but avoid her. You have to be the bigger person if you want to overcome this, but right now you’re coming off as just as petty and dramatic. 

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