(Closed) Girlfriend pressuring me and I'm sick of the fighting…

• Ashley8200blue
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: March 2015

I feel like at 36 and after 2 years you dont know what you want. When you are in a relationship your partner’s future desires can be dependent on you and each partner needs to keep that in mind. you don’t want to hold each other back. You seem wishy washy with maybe someday you will be ready. Honestly from everything you have wrote I don’t believe you will be ready ever with her and she has tons of anxiety around it which is causing her to pressure you for answers. She also desires a child and is she supposed to take a gamble that someday you will want that too? That’s a lot to ask of her. think how hard that must be for her to risk her dreams on a man who really isn’t sure what he wants. Seems like she has already invested time hoping you will be ready soon. I think you have your answer but aren’t man enough to admit it to her…you don’t want to marry her or have childen with her. Dude let her go. 

• Breauxlin
• 4 years ago

• Wedding: October 2016

Red Flags …  you will be resentful if you ‘cave’ again… she will feel vindicated — and it would only cause issues.  If you two aren’t able to disagree in a healthy fashion without yelling, swearing etc (and I know you said that was her Modus Operandi — but still – if you’ve told her several times that a healthy way to disagree should not involve those negative attributes then cut your losses and leave.