(Closed) Girls (not strippers!) at his bachelor party

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

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@losingfocus:  Agreed.

 

There will be girls at my Fiances stag party because two of his closest friends, and one of them is his oldest friend, are women. His party was never going to be a big boozy celebration of having a penis anyway so it won’t be odd that these girls are there. It’s airsofting and they can more than hold their own against the boys. It won’t be a “freedoms last stand” kind either, we’ve lived together for years and everyone is so fond of ribbing him about it’s obvious who “wears the trousers” and it isn’t him. (To be fair that works for both of us, not just me honest!)

But these are women he has known for years, they are his buddies as much as any of his guy mates are. If they were to bring random women, or everyone bring their girlfriends along that would ruin the bromance!

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

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@hexme5:  I feel bad for your Fiance, where is his special party? I think the guy throwing the party is kind of a Dbag for taking the spotlight away from your Fiance.  It should be his party!  anyway you really need to talk to your Fiance before this becomes a lot bigger of an issue, you are hurt and that is completly understandable!  Talk to him, he is your soon to be husband 🙂

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

i would be reaaaaaally upset if this was happening to me.

 

i wouldn’t trust a bunch of girls from my high school either… so you know… hehe. i am sure your situation is probably different to mine though as i hate all my high school “friends” now.

 

we aren’t having bucks and hens nights at all. i plan on having a tea party afternoon thing with my mum and sis and the few others coming to our small wedding who are females… and my fiancee will have something with his nerdy mates, which will probably entail fruit ninja and other games hahaha.

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I just asked my Fiance what he thought about this situation, and he thinks it is completely inappropriate. My fiancé loves to go out and have a good time, but he said that this is just not a good situation.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It sounds immature. Last house party..?? Like, what?

I would talk to your Fiance. He might actually be annoyed that his friend has essentially bailed on hosting the bachelor party.

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No. Your wedding is not supposed to be one day where it is all about you. It is all aboug the both of you.

 

Not HIS friends or YOUR friends. There isn’t very much “we” here… You should have talked it out a long time ago with your fiance and told him how it made you feel etc.

 

Granted- this is all very poor planning on your fiance’s friends’ part but you shouldn’t take it this personally. They were being lazy and trying to kill two birds with one stone which is why you and your bridesmaids weren’t invited. Yes, it’s a terrible idea and it’s fine that you don’t like it but shutting out your fiance and not talking to him doesn’t solve anything.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wouldn’t be happy with it either. I’d talk to him and let him know this bothers you.

Post # 25
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Woodwinds

so what wound up happening?

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Show up, and explain you are there for the graduation party, not the bachelor party. 🙂

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I feel the same way as you do! and I would be a little ticked that the bestman couldn’t wait and had to schedule them at the same time.  Could you not do one Friday and the other Saturday?  I swear some guys don’t think things through!

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