(Closed) Girls who waited… how long did it take you to have awesome sex?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It took 5 months for it to get good (we didn’t wait, but we were each other’s first), including two 6-week breaks.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

To get REALLY good, over a year. But it’s still a work in progress.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@SimplyChic11:  7 inches and thick is actually well above average and definitely big enough for you to orgasm from intercourse but its more about the feelings you have for him and how attracted you are to him.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@SimplyChic11:  Darling Husband and I didn’t wait to have sex but I have a similar experience with the burning, stretching, tearing etc that you are talking about. We have been having sex for 12 years and I still have that problem, not every time but often. The only advice i can give for that is lots of forplay and lube. It will def get better just be patient! 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@dayplanner:  That is not necessarily true; many, many women don’t orgasm from intercourse alone, no matter how in love they are!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

OP, I just saw that you’re on an anti-depressant. When I was first put on prozac, I completely lost my ability to orgasm. On my own, with Darling Husband…nothin’. It was WEIRD. I could still get turned on, so it’s not like my sex drive was gone – just no orgasm, no matter what I tried. After switching to a different SSRI, all was well again.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I didn’t wait, but I’m 35 and have never had an O from just intercourse…I read that only 20% of woman can, so those that can, I’m jealous!  Because of that, we now have “his finish” and then “my finish” after.  πŸ™‚ There are no rules!

I am reading a book called Own Your Orgasm that seems interesting, maybe check that out?

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My SO and I were each other’s first and only sexual partners, and it was “good” in a sense from the beginning – I am one of those rare people who can climax from just intercourse, and ironically, it took HIM a while to be able to! We both think it’s because he was just used to the hand πŸ˜› As time went on though, we got better at getting off in various ways and positions, such as me from oral and manual stimulation, and him from intercourse – he still can’t get off from oral, and probably woudln’t unless I did it for an hour, very unusual guy I have! We’ve been together for nearly 4 years, and most of the “results” from our experimentation going well were achieved within the first year.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’ve been with my Fiance for 9 years and he’s definitely not my first…and I STILL get the burning/stretching feeling happening….lol…He’s not complaining…..it still feels good though, I definitely have no complaints….

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@mightywombat:  yup, and you’re completely right…..any woman who expects to orgasm from intercourse alone will be left in the cold for the most part…..educating yourself on sex and your body will definitely help you!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I didn’t wait and started probably too early, but it took quite a long time to have an orgasm from intercourse.  Two major things that I think are essential – you have to have some fun on your own, in order to understand how to move to get going, and I think a lot of women can only get there on top.  Have you done both regularly?

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I didn’t wait, but Darling Husband is the only person I’ve ever had really super amazing sex with on a very regular basis…  That being said, I still have yet to orgasm.  Ever.  Never experienced it.  It’s not from lack of trying or lack of skill on his part.  I think I’m just incapable.  That being said, I still have a great time.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This forum is depressing me! haha Fiance and I are waiting and it sounds like only one of us will be having a good time..

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