- 6 years ago
Sorry this is cross posted from lounge- if that’s not allowed I’ll delete!
So, I have relatively narrow hips- my measurements make me a pear, but the main difference between my waist and hip measurements come from a butt that sticks out, not wide hips. From the front, I look pretty straight-and-narrow but from the side I look curvier.
Anyway, I always thought this was a real disadvantage because of all those articles saying a small waist and wide hips are evolutionarily attractive, and essentially all hetero men prefer that. My W-H ratio is actually pretty good, but as I said, it really doesn’t appear that way from the front.
Since there’s nothing I can do to fix it, I had kind of stopped caring. But then the other night, SO and I were watching TV. he pointed to an actress with a very slender, athletic build and a waist that didn’t indent very much (kind of a typical ruler shape). He said, “See, that’s the kind of waist and hips I like- just a tiny bit of a curve, not too hippy.”
I had no idea he actually PREFERRED that shape, because all those articles I read make it sound like ALL men feel a certain way because of evolution, signs of fertility, etc. Are there any other girls here with narrow hips who have actually had it work as an advantage? I always thought it was a flaw, but I guess SO actually does not like big hips. Looking back on his exes, this seems to be consistent–I’m probably the curviest of all of them. I even showed him that “scientific” diagram of the girls with different waist-hip ratios and he chose the ones with hips on the narrower side.
Some people tell me that any man who feels this way is secretly gay (which is not the case for SO). Anyone else look like this, and know men who prefer it? I alway assumed it was a bad thing, across the board.