Post # 1
I am having a small wedding (we are inviting around 90 people and expect 40-50 to show up) and I feel like I am putting more into this wedding than there needs to be for such a small guest list. I am having my ceremony and reception in the same place which is a beautiful garden. I plan on having a fully catered dinner since almost all of the people are coming from out of town. We will have a DJ and Photographer. Pretty much the whole nine yards. I guess I feel like we are over doing it because I have seen several girls lately who have small weddings just do a ceremony, champange and hor d’oeuvres. Or something equally as simple.
So please let me know, those of you who are having a small guest list, what is your wedding looking like? Am I over doing it or is this just a normal wedding with a small guest list?
Post # 3
We wanted to keep it small so we could afford to have nice/ pretty stuff! So I totally think its worth it.
Post # 4
I had a totally traditional (in the sense of full reception, dinner and dancing) wedding for my 54 guests. And I would do it ALL over again! It was AMAZING!!!!!
Post # 5
I went all out for 60 people, did the same things I would’ve done for 200 people. No regrets at all! I think the limited guest list made it more feasible budget-wise to go for our first choices in many aspects and made it a very classy wedding.
Post # 6
I expect 50-60 people and we are going all out too. I think that especially when most of the guests are traveling it’s nice to have a “real” food. I think the nice part about a small guest list is I can do all those little projects that would be impossible if we had a big wedding (like little “for your tears of joy” tissue packets and personalized things just for our day….).
Post # 7
We’re having about 40 people there (including us and the tiny bridal party) and we’re having the whole nine as well. I look at it as it not being the amount of people there that make the wedding but how you choose to celebrate is what counts. The people that will be in attendance are those who have been there and supported us and who we wouldn’t want to share our day without. A benefit of having a smaller wedding is that you CAN do all the little extra things and it not cost as much too! The only thing we’re not having is a dj (iPod instead) and that’s just a personal choice.
Post # 8
Oops, and I voted for the wrong choice. Count -1 for the “big hoopla” choice and add +1 to the other 🙂
Post # 9
I think what you are doing is great 🙂
We are also haveing a small wedding; limiting our invites to 50 and expect about 35 to show, and I also have the thoughts that we are doing to much for such a small wedding, but it is our day, so I know everything we do and have planned will be totally worth it. We don’t want to look back on our wedding day and think, wow, I wish we would have done this, so we are doing it.
Post # 10
Wow, thanks bees for the quick response. I just keep seeing so many people with huge weddings and not too many with small weddings so my crazy bridal brain wheels started turning. lol. It is nice to see that there are so many girls with smaller weddings going all out. Thanks!
Post # 11
We only had 18 guests for our destination wedding and we did everything traditional but dancing and a DJ! We still had a photographer, cocktail hour, 5-course meal, cake cutting, etc.
Post # 12
I’m planning a small, intimate wedding also and am planning to have a very nice event. I think your plans sound lovely!
I am capping the guest list at 50 people, and will likely have closer to 35. I know it does seem like everyone and everything is geared to huge crowds, but I’m perfectly happy with my intimate crew of special folks. Truly wouldn’t do it any other way!
ETA – Just to share more, to be more clear, I will be doing all of these items of a “normal big wedding” – just scaled down to size for mine.
**Strings during ceremony, high end attire, lovely decorated historic B&B, cocktail hour, band, plated dinner, photographer, send off, etc. The only thing I’m not entirely sure of at this point is a videographer.
The only reason I question a videographer is because I don’t want the photographer entourage + the videographer entourage to out number the wedding guests!
Post # 13
We’re expecting about 60 guests and we were going to just have dinner, but now we’re having the whole deal!
Post # 14
I think it is fine, it’s your wedding, do it the way you want despite the size of the guest list. Like others have said, you may not have been able to afford the things you want had you gone with a 100+ guest list.
We’re expecting (fingers crossed against crashers & re-hasing the list) about 60-70 people, and we’re going to go as all out as we would for 300+, except without the added cost.
Just look at it this way if you kept thinking ‘it’s too much!’ and decided to cut a few things that you really wanted or scaled back on things that you really didn’t want to compromise on, you could very well look back disappointed — who’s to say?
Post # 15
No, I’m doing a small wedding too and a full dinner…although ours is buffet. We couldn’t have afforded much of anything if we decided to invite 200 people…we’d be doing one of those super simple punch and cake deals. But keeping our guest list intimate means that our closest peeps will be able to enjoy a really nice evening to celebrate our marriage.
Post # 16
Once I get back into the swing of planning, it will be 50 guests tops…I am hoping for closer to 40. We plan to do most of the traditional things…photography, DJ, cake cutting. We can do all of those things for a fraction of the cost due to the smaller guestlist…and I can splurge on flowers…gotta love that.