Post # 1
My Maid/Matron of Honor is tossing me a showery-get-together thing in December. The ladies living in the Bay Area who are invited to my wedding will be invited (this is mostly my friends from college–we’re all in our mid-twenties). My fiance’s grandmother’s nieces are throwing me a separate, more traditional shower in January in Virginia (this will be attended by the ladies on his side of the family, mostly older women). I feel very blessed to have any showers to go to, much less two!
I have read all the posts on registering separately for the bridal shower, but I have this question: is it OK to put together a couple of more fun girlier wishlists (clothing for the honeymoon, some lingerie, beauty products, cookbooks, small home decor items) for the CA shower (Sephora, Anthropologie, Victoria’s Secret…etc) but just stick to the normal wedding registries (Macys, Crate & Barrel, etc.) for the more traditional shower? The shower in CA isn’t necessarily a lingerie shower, more of a girly reunion shower. It seems like it would be weird to be getting dishes, cookware, bedding, etc. at that one.
If I do create some special wishlists for the CA shower, where should I try to keep the pricepoints? Anyone dealt with this before?
Thanks for your input!
Post # 3
@katydid30: I would not create a seperate wishlist. A registry is not a wishlist it is a guide to help your guests with things like china patern, linen colours, etc. It’s not an instruction guide for your guests.
If these ladies are as close to you as you report, then I would trust them to pick out things that fit your style and size. People are also not required to buy off registry, so I don’t understand having multiple registries. Also, lots of people will buy things off the registry they used for the shower for the wedding. So unless you want to get underpants as a wedding gift, I’d scrap the idea.
Post # 4
The only thing you can do is have a registry, but not specify what you want. You could set up a registry at a sore you like that has the option for gift cards in hopes that people pick those.
Post # 5
@katydid30: I would just rely on your Maid/Matron of Honor relaying the type of shower you will be having in CA. I have been to themed showers/get togethers before. She could include that on their invitations.. theme being items for your honeymoon and she could list some ideas (beauty/VS etc.) and include recipe cards with the invite for everyone to fill out and bring to the event to make you a personal cookbook with.
Post # 5
Maybe I’m just nuts, but I feel like guests would be RELIEVED that you’ve given them some ideas??<br />I realize this thread is long done but… in case anyone else finds this, there is at least one Bee who thinks it’s okay to have a wishlist 😛
Post # 6
katydid30: Cookbooks and home decor can totally go on your wedding registry. It’s not just pots and pans- it’s anything for the two of you to enjoy together and build your life. I’ve seen registries with camping gear and board games!
You could do a lingerie girlie shower where you’d get things like nighties and stuff. At those showers I’ve seen people gift things like lotions and massage oils. Generally the hostess includes your sizes on the invite somehow and people buy things they think you’d like. You don’t register for those things.
I don’t think it’s appropriate to do a wish list with honeymoon clothes and beauty products though. That’s for your birthday, not for your wedding shower. While the shower is honoring you- it’s celebrating your marriage and so the gifts are geared toward things that in some way benefit both of you.