Post # 1
My twin brother is getting married on Saturday (!!!!), and of course we are ironing out a bunch of last minute details. My wedding was June 1, and it’s super nice to just plan on donning a bridesmaids dress, spending family time, and hitting the champagne this time around!
That said, a rehearsal question. My mom is understandably very pumped for this event, but I fear she’s a little too stuck in “mother of the bride mode” in certain ways. My parents are hosting the rehearsal dinner. My dad plans to give a short speech, but my mom wants me to do so as well. My younger brother is the best man, and will be speaking at the reception, but I think momma wants me to acknowledge the special twin bond in a sweet way. We are close, but I don’t personally feel strongly one way or the other about doing this.
I’m comfortable with public speaking and could probably pull off something sweet and funny that speaks to both my brother and his bride to be, but I’m a little concerned it’s unncessary and could be taken as me trying to be the center of attention (BRIDE THE SEQUEL!).
Her parents are hosting 100% of everything else, and I think are treating this wedding pretty traditionally in all aspects. I deeeeeefinitely don’t want to come off as thunderstealing or like I feel like it’s about me and my brother and our family – it’s totally about the bride’s family in this case, and I am so happy to go with that particular flow. I also know people don’t really love to listen to tons of speeches from people they don’t know, and the rehearsal is heavily populated with her family over ours.
What do you think? Speech or no speech?
Post # 3
How do the bride and groom feel about it?
Post # 4
She’s not the type to say what she really thinks if it’s no.. too sweet! I doubt he cares one way or the other.
Post # 5
@dcgirl655: I would say no unless you don’t plan on giving a speech at the wedding. Do one or the other or it might become overkill to repeat yourself to some of the same guests.
Post # 6
I don’t think it would steal anyone’s thunder to give a short speech at the rehearsal dinner, assuming you aren’t slated to give a speech at the wedding, too.
That being said, if you don’t care to make a speech, then don’t. You don’t need to, but I agree with your mom that it would be sweet to acknowledge that twin bond you share.
Post # 7
I love a good, heartfelt speech, and I think one for your twin would be great. Twins are a special thing, and I think a lot of people are kind of fascinated by twin bonds and would think it’s sweet.
I also think by having it at the rehearsal dinner and not a the reception, it is definitely not Bride-the-sequelesque… not that I think it would be if you gave it at the reception either.
Post # 8
@dcgirl655: I would keep it short and sweet but still say something. Maybe a favorite memory from a time you were with Botha of them and the sentiment your not losing your twin but gaining a sister so her family feels happy she’s accepted by yours
Post # 9
I voted “no.” Not because it would look like you were stealing their thunder (unless you got up there and talked about your own wedding or something!) but because it sounds like you really don’t want to.
And everyone knows that you’re twins, you’re in the wedding party, you have a brother who’s best man and who is giving a toast…so it’s not necessary for you to say something. Do what’s comfortable to you.
Post # 10
Go for it! My godmother gave a speech at the rehearsal dinner and it was great! I doesnt even have to be anything big, anything you say would be nice and Im sure your twin would appreciate it.
Post # 11
Thanks so much for your responses ladies! I am not giving a speech at the wedding. I think I will definitely write something and have it ready and plan on it. If the moment doesn’t arise, I will be okay with not giving it of course.
Super short and sweet. We have been through every single stage of life together even as adults…. both went through law school and the job search in this dismal economy even! I will probably mention all of those milestones and how it’s always been great to have someone who knew exactly what I was going through. I am definitely going to leave out that we were both engaged at the same time, as that was initially a bit of a hot mess on my family’s side. I think that is why I was worried about thunderstealing, but I can just… not say a thing about it.
Probably finish with how perfect they are for each other, because they really are, glad I finally have that sister I always wanted to travel through life with too. End speech. I’m planning on 2 minutes tops. Does that sound appropriate?
Post # 12
@sailor_girl: Thanks for your response! I initially did want to when my mom mentioned it, but was really worried about seeming, “ME ME ME!” We were wedding planning at the same time most of the time, and while it never became an issue because I truly did not care, I think she feels a little bad that we ended up getting married within a four-month span. As usual, I’m probably overthinking 🙂
Post # 13
@dcgirl655: Sounds like it will be a very lovely speech!
Post # 14
@dcgirl655: I think it would be really nice!! And people love twins, I think they’d love a nice speech kind of “giving away” your brother to his bride to be!
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
@dcgirl655: I didn’t comment before, but I think that sounds perfect. Also, especially if they don’t know you, her family is probably curious about his twin and how you feel about everything.
Post # 16
@dcgirl655: I’m marrying a twin and his twin sister happens to also be my Maid/Matron of Honor and best friend friend. That said, even if we didn’t have the close relationship we have, nothing changes the fact that they are twins and inseparable and I would honored to have her give a speech at our rehearsal. I say go for it!