- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
<h1 class=”subject”>How to deal with Mother in law and Sister in law?</h1> <div class=”content”>Hi,
I am with my fiance for 7 years. My future mother in law was really nice to me. My sister in law does not like me from the beginning because she jealous that I am loved by my sibling and she is not. She jealous that I take care my family things and my family has understanding on me. Before, I was engage with my fiance, I get alone with my mother in law really well, but then I engaged with my fiance in front of them. She started to change into another person. She saying many things to me indirectly. Like go get a job, where I am looking for a job (I just lay off from my previous job) and had a hard time finding a job. Right now it just hard to find a job. I am not using my fiance moneys at all as well because I had my moneys save up from all these years of working. Every single time, I am at his house. She will say things indirectly about how I was not good enough that why I lost my job. I should take **** even through your job is like that. That is disciple people need. I was not disciple enough like her daughter. I cried every single time when I came back from his house. I felt so sad that she didn’t understand me. My job didn’t want me not because my job is hard. It is my manager who was so mean to me and unwelling to train me to handle the position I was hired in. I told my fiance, but then I felt really bad that I make him upset at his mother and sister because he knows his sister was the person behind all these things. He knows because his sister complaint about him in front of his mother. For example, brother never care about me after he meet his fiance. He only spend time with her. He didn’t care about us. During my engagement his sister was so ruin in front of my family. Telling my family that she looks down on them because her family is more educated then my family..
1. I felt so guilty putting my family into this type of situation. My family really loves me and they are worry about me once I marry into this family I will suffer even through I don’t live with them or not to plan to live with them. <div class=”content”>
2. I really don’t know what to do to make things smoother for my fiance and I. I am really nice to his sister from the beginning of our relationship. It is sad…But she is type of person who look down on you and then really show it to you. <div class=”content”> <div class=”content”> 3. I really don’t know how to say to my fiance that I don’t feel secure with all these things going on. His family does not seem like they want him to marry me. Even through he said his family is emotionless. But I can feel that his family does not want us to marry. I understand because his family always want someone to be high status, rich and can bring face to the family. Showing the world they are high status with good education. I am just a girl from hard working family. That my parents divorce because my dad had affair with another woman (my nightmare). I mean compare with them. I live in a poor area in this state, but they live in upper class area in the state. I work really hard with my family to support myself through college.
How to deal with people like that? If ignored, but I am not a selfish person. How I learn to ignore people who I care? How to stand strong with my fiance?<div class=”content”> <div class=”content”>Thanks for advance, <div class=”content”>