Post # 1
My S/O and I were invited to a wedding reception over the weekend for his family friend. They are having a small, courthouse wedding and the reception will be held at her parents’ house.
I am not sure what the etiquette regarding gift giving is, especially we will not be attenting the actual ceremony. Do we still give a gift? If so, is cash acceptable and how much?
It should be noted that neither of us is particularly close to the bride or groom, but the bride’s parents’ are best friends with S/O’s parents’ and his brother is friends with the bride. I definitely don’t want to show up empty handed or cheap out but we don’t feel like we would want to spend the same amount of money on them as we would for one of OUR close friends.
EDIT – we were invited somewhat last minute (I believe a month ago). I am not sure if the wedding was planned quickly or we were invited as an afterthought. I am also not sure if they will be having a larger ceremony down the road.
Post # 3
I would probably give them a small gift. Cash should be just fine if it’s normally acceptable in your circles. You shouldn’t feel obligated to gift them as you would a close friend, I think most people gift based on relationship.
Post # 4
Is the couple registered anywhere? A lot of times couples register with stores but don’t really tell anyone. If you’re not particularly close with them that is more of a reason for you to maybe not know about where they are registered. I would search http://www.theknot.com for their registries since that site can check a number of stores at once and also major dept. stores that couples usually register at.
If they are registered somewhere just pick something from there and have it sent directly to them. You can give them a card on the day of and include a pic of what you ordered for them (that’s what I usually do).
If they’re not registered anywhere, why not ask S/O’s parents their opinion on an appropriate cash gift? Good Luck!