Give them another chance? So confused

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
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940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

When you did a quick look at this venue, did you fall in love and still love it as much as you thought? If so, I’d give it another chance. She seemed extremely apologetic which is a good sign at least. I would explain your situation and politely demand that she make availability for you during the weekend or a time that works for you since she caused you such an inconvenience the first time around. If something similar happens the second time, or she isn’t accommodating when you request another date, then I’d move on and find someplace different. 

Post # 3
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2253 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Honestly when I was planning if anyone pulled something like this or even remotely close like got the date of my wedding wrong or something they were off my vendor list completely. 

Post # 4
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10368 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

How much did you love the venue with the coordinator who didn’t show?

Idk, our bakery accidently forgot to book us (thankfully they still had the date open when I found out) and they came through perfectly on our wedding date. Our DJ on the other hand was very responsive, the perfect vendor up until he dropped off the face of the earth a week before the wedding and we had to find a last minute replacement. So honestly, it’s all a crap shoot, something can always go wrong. 

Maybe talk to the coordinator about your concerns? She if she can ease them?

Post # 6
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937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

im a forgiving person, i would check out the 1st venue again and meet with the coordinator if possible. i would be a bit extra and reach out to her a few time to confirm my appointment. dont settle but also dont look back in time and feel like u had a chance

good luck

Post # 8
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1151 posts
Bumble bee

I would arrange to meet the coordinator again in person and do another walk through with her. See how she is in person.

If she seems to know her stuff and very switched on in person, I’d give it another chance. If you’re still not happy with her you can safely cross it off the list.

Post # 10
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3079 posts
Sugar bee

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beekay :  Id be inclined to cross them off the list and it would make me nervous to continue working with her, but if you really love the place – check out the reviews. Are there negative reviews? Do they mention the coordinator? Does it seem like things fall through the cracks? 

If you dont find anything too bad, i would proceed with the place you love. 

Post # 11
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8152 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I had a similar experience, but with a caterer. Their food looked amazing, they’d worked at my venue before, I love how it was plated, they provided everything, etc. They missed multiple phone meetings, wouldn’t email back for weeks at a time, lost our original quote, had their car broken into and all their previous notes “stolen”, etcetcetc. It was like pulling teeth to try and get ANYTHING. I ended up emailing them a thanks for your time but we’re going with another vendor. Then, like 2 months later I get another email like “hey just wanted to follow up if you still need a quote. I just found this email” or something. Like WTF! 

This lady was so flaky she didn’t even show up – how bad is the rest of the planning going to be? You are looking at it the wrong way – no one is pushing you to have a wedding THEY want, they are looking at it realistically that planning with this person is going to be a logistical nightmare. 

Post # 14
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

Beeee!!! I feel you. Our venue is really a diy thing. When we first checked it out we hung out outside for about 10 minutes waiting to be let it. We ended up booking it cause it was cheap. I regret it now. My Fi thinks it’ll be fine. I do not. It’s really not worth the anxiety it causes to work with someone flaky. Find somewhere else!!

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