posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 18
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m struggling with my 40 – 50 day cycles. It just doesn’t seem fair at times to only get to try once every month and a half. Missing out on the POAS board because of it wasn’t fun either =/ 

I have a friend who is waiting to TTC so she has been a huge support for me. We are beign quiet about it and haven’t told any family that we are trying because I didn’t want the added pressure, especially now that we’ve been trying for 7 cycles. But having her to compaling or get excited with has been the biggest blessing I could ask for. 

Other than that I’m with you, @bloomingflower I’ll be out in the garden and prepping for a yard sale to hopefully get my mind off things 🙂

Post # 19
7305 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

When we were preparing for Mr. Lk’s TESE and my IVF cycle, I stayed sane by embracing the 50% chance of failure. I am sure that sounds odd, but having a great plan b that didn’t include munchkins made me realize that we would have a beautiful life, no matter what. That took away all of the pressure, and I could let the chips fall where they may without trying to control the outcome.

Post # 21
886 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I waited a really long time for my fertility to come back after having my son. I’ve had 2 cycles now but they are irregular. Although we only “tried” for 2 cycles, it’s been over a year since we decided we were ready to TTC baby 2. It’s been super frustrating and definitely a test of my patience. Some days I cry and get a little bitter. Other days I’m ok. Things that have helped me are 1) finding support. I have a couple friends also struggling with TTC in different ways. Also coming back to Weddingbee, reading that I’m not the only one. And 2) pouring into my son, trying to be a better mom for him. I’m trying to embrace the idea that he might be an only child. Here’s hoping that, either way, he will want for nothing. 

Post # 22
1443 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015



Post # 23
300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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littledodge:  I hear you. long cycles suck because you end up getting lapped by everyone else! We’ve been trying since December, but I’m only just starting my 4th cycle. I hate missing the chance to try! Although, I had long cycles when I got pregnant with my daughter, so I know it’s possible! 

In terms of positivity, I try to think of one thing each month that I’m excited I won’t miss out on due to pregnancy. Like, oh great, I’ll be able to actually go to my best friend’s wedding, drink at this person’s bachelorette party, not feel like crap on this vacation… They’re small, but they do make me feel a little better!

Post # 24
4673 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It took me over a year and 12 or 13 cycles to get pregnant with my little peanut, who will be 2 weeks old on Sunday. A lot of the suggestions here kept me sane during the really hard months.

Something I also did was try something new each month. Even if it was silly or probably wouldn’t effect my fertility that much. I tried to do yoga for fertility one month, I did acupuncture until I git my BFP, I cut out carbs and BPA products, and the last month I even tried to add aromatherapy. Adding and trying new things each month gave me a little bit of hope that this month would be different. 

Good luck girls and I hope you all get your sticky BFP’s soon!  

Post # 26
15528 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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bloomingflower:  I started a blog on wordpress to let out my fustrations.  It was a good outlet for me to let it out, good or bad, since I hadn’t told anyone IRL about it.  Then somehow, when other people with the same stuggles found my page (I still have no idea how, I don’t do anyhting on there but blab) and commented and wrote to me, it was sort of nice to know I wasn’t alone in this and that other people understood.

Post # 27
1443 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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bloomingflower:  I know it is very tough to wait for something that you want so badly. I just wanted to tell you that I love your perseverance and positivity. I check every single month to see if you have gotten your BFP yet and when you do, there are many of us who will be celebrating with you. 


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