(Closed) Give what you receive?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Honey bee

No, you should gift whatever you can afford.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sorry I think you need to give the same amount they gave you.

Although I did have a couple at our wedding give $50 less than we gave them at their wedding a month earlier.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Give what you can.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

what you can afford/feel is appropriate.  that’s unfair that just because one couple gets married first they have no say as to how much is being given.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Gift what you can afford. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with Bostongrl25.

They probably would have gifted you that much whether or not their wedding was coming up or not.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Give what you normally give. It could be offensive either way, but it seems more wrong to give your wealthier friends a bigger gift just because they were able to afford to give you one.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Personally I would give the $200. I agree that you should give what you can afford, but they kind of know you can afford to give a $200 gift… since they just gave it to you at your wedding. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Give what you can afford. We had 5 couples attend our wedding who were recently married. We gave them each more than they gave us. It is something that I noticed but certainly not anything I was upset about.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper

I think friends are pretty great about realizing their other friends’ situations in life. Give what you can afford, and they’ll totally understand. They didn’t invite you for the money.

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