Giving a gift as a Bridesmaid?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
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    The bridal shower and bachelorette party were the gifts...

    Of course you have to give a gift!

  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    For me it depends on the wedding. 

    I always give a gift, unless its a Destination Wedding. 

    I don’t expect a gift from any of my BM’s, and they have been made aware of this. Them spending the day with us is our gift. 

    Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    My Bridesmaid or Best Man gave me a scrap book of us while we were getting ready and it was the best thing ever! I tried to keep everything low cost, but it was still a domestic Destination Wedding and 100% did not expect a gift. it was so thoughtful and she left extra pages in the back so we could add the professional photos in afterwards.

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

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    orchidbee :  No. I definitely don’t expect a gift. Honestly, I think it’s pretty typical for bridal parties to not give gifts. At least in my area. (midwest, US)

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I didn’t expect any gifts from my bridal party, I would have felt absolutely awful if they felt the need to give me a present! Did you give a gift at the shower? I think you’re good. If you feel like you *must* I would give something very very small but I personally feel the card is fine. $1200 is a LOT already!

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I personally would try to find something 15-20$ that was cute or sentimental (or even a bottle of wine/champagne from their wedding year for them to drink on their 1st/5th/10th anniversary) along with a heartfelt card just to not show up empty-handed. But I definitely don’t think it is expected of you at this point!

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I always give a gift. It can be something heartfelt but not pricey. When I was younger, I was in some weddings when I was broke. I got a simple gift for the couple. I think one time I probably got the cheapest thing on the registry, but I figure it is the thought that counts!!! (I was a poor college student at the time.) 

    Post # 9
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    10368 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I didn’t expect a gift from our wedding party. They did all end up getting us something small but it wasn’t expected at all!

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