Post # 1
I asked 4 friends to stand in my wedding — 3 are my closest friends from different parts of my life – childhood, college, adult/career (the 4th is another college friend whom I felt I had to ask – but in retrospect I regret that decision with every breath I take – topic for another day).
I didn’t pick a Maid/Matron of Honor because I felt too guilty in picking between the 3 and also guilty that I didn’t ask my sister to be in the wedding (she lives out of state and is way too irresponsible – it wouldn’t be unlike her to promise she’s coming and not show up).
I’d like to find special ways to honor these 3 ladies during the day. Any ideas?
I’m thinking of asking one of them – the one who best knows me and my Fiance as a couple – to give a toast/speech. I’m not sure if she’ll see it as an honor or an annoyance…. thoughts?
Post # 3
Depends on the person. But becareful. If you didnt want to give one the honor of Maid/Matron of Honor officially, you essentially did by asking to say something in the form of a speech since that is a typical MOG duty. I would ask each of them, if they are comfortable, to say 30 seconds to a minute worth if a speech so they feel equal.
If I were the other two, I would feel the other person was favored and annoyed that one person got the “special attention” as a speech giver and to the guests the honor of Maid/Matron of Honor and yet we all had to share all the duties/cost.
Post # 4
Personally, I wouldn’t want to give a speech. I’m just not one for getting up in front of people and being sentimental/entertaining. Not my thing. And I would be very nervous/anxious about doing so. I would gladly let someone else give the speech, but that’s just me. You know your girls best.