(Closed) Giving an animal away to a stranger-I hate that feeling!!! What do you do?!

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@hfwildcat:  I don’t understand, if you felt uncomfortable handing the cat over, why not just wait until you found someone you were comfortable hanging the cat over to??  What’s worse – telling someone that you’ve changed your mind and having them ‘feel bad’ or putting a cat in a potentially dangerous or unloving position?  You have to protect the helpless animals you’re rescuing – who cares if you insult a human?  Next time this happens, research the people and make sure you are comfortable with them before you commit to handing the cat over. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ack! Please! If at ALL possible wait to give away any stray you find until AFTER Halloween! (Especially black cats) Sadly people like to sacrafice animals on Halloween which is why the shelter I volunteer at NEVER adopt out black cats until AFTER Halloween (some people just want to use them as live window decorations and then return them…) People like this are ESPECIALLY active on Craigs List – most people don’t care who the animal goes to.

 

**edit** By not liking the house, I mean everything in general. Household/people/conditions/too many animals as it is. Etc.

 

To answer your question though, yes. I am like you. I will take in strays (true strays, I attempt to locate an owner if possible) and do my best to find homes for them. I will personally take the animal out to the house with my Fiance, and if it is some remote location I tell a white lie and say the animal has already been adopted. If I don’t like the house I make up a fib about how I think I’ve come to love the animal and leave, animal in tow. Most of the time people understand, and I’ve never had anyone get angry with me.

 

It is hard to tell, but did you hand the animal over or keep him? And to answer your question it is perfectly fine (and very morally responsible) to  tell someone you’ve changed your mind if you feel the animal will not be well provided for.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My God, I seriously started feeling sick while reading this post. One should NEVER hand over a defenseless animals to people you  are not comfortable with! Thereare ways to spead the word to find an animal a home – FB, Petfinder.com, etc. It is always wise to ask a prospective pet owner for and copy the info from their driver’s license and they are willing to provide contact info for a follow-up to see how the animal is doing. I will pray for that poor kitten.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

You should never ever give an animal away to a complete stranger. You have no idea who they are and how they will treat the animal. They could be restricted from owning an animal due to past cruelty to animals for all you know and use people like yourself who give away animals to anyone as a way to get a new animal.

Give the animal to a shelter.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@j_jaye:  Shelters get full. If the shelter is full they will turn away animals. If there is no space there is no space. If I didn’t make it clear in my post, I meet with the people in a neutral location first THEN go out to the house and these people are ALWAYS friends of a friend (I use FB/work a lot). Sadly, you can never be 100% sure the person you’re giving an animal to isn’t a bad person, but other than keeping the animal for an indefinate amount of time or returning it to the streets, sometimes you have to go with your gut.

 

As for people who are restricted from owning animals, animal control officers will make routine checks (at least around here) to make sure the people who aren’t suppose to have animals don’t have animals. Yes, there is risk,  but most of the time if the family seems good and you have a friend who can vouche for the family, you’ll find a good home for the animal.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Actually I had a similar situation today. There was a red husky wandering around our neighborhood and I wanted to take him in so he wouldn’t get hurt. I couldn’t though because there’s already 3 other male dogs in the house, so I took him to a clinic in town to scan him for a microchip (which he had) and made an attempt to get ahold of his owners. That didn’t work and I couldn’t take him home so I had to take him to the humane society. He growls at people he doesn’t trust so I worried the moment I handed him over that he would never make it out of there. He gave me the saddest and betrayed look when I left without him. So, yes I know exactly how you feel and I would’ve told them no. If you had the choice to wait, I would have for the sake of the animal.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

@hfwildcat:  I almost feel like leaving the cat in the street is better than handing him over to some strangers that will do who knows what to the cat.  Perhaps consider keeping a crate in your house to keep the cat in the crate and away from your other cats while you wait to find it a new home?  For future reference, that is.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

@SakuraBlossomBee:  And one of the reasons shelters get full is because irresponsible people hand cats over to anyone. They then don’t desex them and they have kittens again and again. Because responsible pet owners don’t tend to answer free animal ads and use shelters and certified breeders.  If you stop that circle then the shelters wouldn’t be full.

It is great that animal control officers have the time to do that in your area but that doesn’t happen often and usually only with court ordered visitiation.

@hfwildcat:  It is unfortunate that the shelters in your area are kill shelters but they have to do that as much as we don’t want them to because of the circle of irresponsible pet owners who allow cats to breed. A cat that is humanly put to sleep is better than a cat that is maltreated, malnurished or abused.

And just for your information we are foster carers for animals (through the RSPCA) and we also have 3 shelter cats that no one wanted (one blind, one with behavioural problems and one with disfigurements from having cancer) so please spare me the self rightous indignation. Have you ever worked in a shelter or actually gone through a training course on rehoming animals? If the answer is no then you are doing no one any favours by trying to rehome strays. Leave it to the professionals.

Nothing makes me sicker than people trying to justify bad practices as love of animals.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

@hfwildcat:  Not high and might- we just actually care about animals and are responsible.

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You should at the very least ask for vet references. 

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