Post # 17
We didn’t tell anyone what was going on until after I delivered, gotten settled, and we’d taken a short nap. It was amazing and by all means recommended. Our parents/families totally respected our decision. My parents (local) came to the hospital within an hour, and his out of town parents were just happy to know.
Post # 18
I had my daughter back in December, I’m in New Zealand and my family are in the UK so when we found out we were being induced I rang them to let them know and said we would notify them as soon as there was news. My SO rang his mother and said “We’re being induced but it could take 24 hours, do NOT come over until we let you know the baby is here.” oh yes okay she says. We were induced at 4pm, at 2am I am naked in the birthing pool in the middle of a contraction and a midwife comes in and says “Oh, your mother is here. She wants to come in?” She had driven 6 hours through the night to be there. I bellowed NOOOOOO and my SO sent her to our house to wait, we ended up having a c-section at 8 in the morning and it wasn’t until a few days after that I realised my contractions stopped around 2am…funnily enough! I think no matter how much you stress that you do NOT want them there until it’s right for you, people will always turn up.
Post # 19
I am not pregnant, but given the aggressive nature of our families, we have talked about this in legnth…because he knows I wont have kids if I know that this will even be an issue.
I dont want anyone but him there, and I think it would be best for me if we dont call ANY of our families until AFTER the baby is born. They dont even need to know when it starts. I know it sounds jerky…but I know his family and mine and they would NOT listen to anything I want. Sounds extreme, but you gotta do what you gotta do!
Perhaps have him call your family and his during the end stages? That way by the time they get there you will hopefully be done? I Know these things dont always go as planned…but I just wish people could understand and respect what the mother-to-be wants!
Post # 20
yikes!!! I’m sooooo worried about this. My mom is a doctor so I’d want her delivering me and I’m worried that my Mother-In-Law will be jealous or want to be there too.
Post # 21
I know our hospital had us make a list of who could be there and I was only allowed DH and one other person for the labor/delivery stage. After that I had to tell them if I was ready for visitors.