(Closed) Giving everyone Plus 1's, but want to avoid randoms!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
1936 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@xkrsa:  There are basically two choices you have:


– invite only those who are already in a relationship to have a +1 

– invite current singles with a +1 and accept whoever they decide to bring as “guest” is an open invite and not up to your discretion (unless there is a personal issue directly between your people and this person)… 


Expect & accept that giving the single +1 means someone coming to your wedding that you may never have met, and you will encounter WAY less drama than if you were to fight it!!

Post # 18
1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If I were you, I would address Save-The-Date Cards to the single friends as just them. If you only want people in a relationship, if one of these single people meets the love of their life tomorrow, you can always just add them to the invite later. NBD.


We’re giving everyone a plus one, across the board. I guess we’re risking a single person bringing their BFF or dogwalker or whatever, but…eh. I’m not that worried about it.

Post # 19
1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@xkrsa:  My plan is to invite my currently-single friends without a +1, and then put on the website (or spread via word of mouth) that if there’s “someone special” they’d like to bring, we’d be happy to accomodate them.  We don’t have unlimited seats and I’d prefer not to have “this guy I met at a bar yesterday” at my wedding, but I trust that if my friends designate someone as special, they’d be fun to have at the wedding.

Post # 21
3302 posts
Sugar bee

@xkrsa:  Also no one should get a +1.  Each and every guest should be invited by name.  If they are dating someone you should find out their names at least.  (Technically they should be invited by their own invitation mailed to their own house, but even I am flexible about that).


Post # 23
5 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

“no, sorry…I already over-invited assuming you wouldn’t have a plus 1.”


Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/giving-everyone-plus-1s-but-want-to-avoid-randoms#ixzz2fkwtsROG



I just said this to someone who RSVP’d for my wedding with her and a male friend as a guest.  I actually said that she couldn’t bring her friend because of venue capacity issues….but really it was because more people are RSVP’ing yes than I intended!


Now, I sent her another text saying that she “might” be able to bring her friend depending on how the rest of the RSVP’s turn out.  She didn’t text me back…… oh well we’ll see how that turns out but it created an awkward sitaution.


Anyways….I feel the same way you do that I would rather have her bring someone special not just a male friend that I have never met.  But I felt bad and it was awkward having that conversation.  AND I kind of regret telling her that she couldn’t bring someone.

Post # 24
965 posts
Busy bee

If I were you I would invite plus ones for friends who are married, engaged, or living together. 

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