(Closed) Giving her something other than a big, shiny ring?

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you want a donation to your special cause instead of an engagement ring?
    YES! : (7 votes)
    4 %
    NO!! : (98 votes)
    53 %
    Maybe...but could I still have a pretty sparkly something? : (47 votes)
    26 %
    No, but you're not proposing to me so it is irrelevant. : (32 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 46
    Member
    2119 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    gm9803:  I think its a sweet idea. maybe get her a simple silver ring along with the donation? and i think the donation would have to be given in a romantic style. like i donated this to this family so they could have a home, with a picture of the family and home. ? idk. like if u decided to adopt her a tiger, make sure you would include a picure of hte tiger and all that. make sure where ever you donate too, that its legit. 

    Post # 47
    Member
    57 posts
    Worker bee

    No. I’m not a jewellery person but I would be so upset if I didn’t get a ring. Every girl, whether she admits it or not, wants a beautiful ring. Definitely get the ring. I think the ring planning process has absolutely made you loopy to think that! Haha. 

    Post # 48
    Member
    2890 posts
    Sugar bee

    gm9803:  I’m really not a jewelry person either and I don’t care for expensive rings. Mine cost under $200 and doesn’t even have a gem. However, I cared about the symbol behind it. I wanted to wear something that I liked, and that would represent the fact I’m committed to someone, and in a serious relationship. Althought we were engaged without a ring for a while, I was glad when I finally found a ring that I liked, within the price range I had set. My Fiance wears a ring, too. If the symbol is important, get the ring. If it’s not, and you’ve discussed it with her and she agrees the donation is more in line with her values, then do it. 

    Post # 49
    Member
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009 - Mountain Meadow/Mansion

    MrsTywinLannister:  This is a wonderful idea; best of both worlds! Prehaps you’d even scale back on the ring cost to have a larger donation, but my gut says she’s going to want to have something to symbolize the engagement and to show to friends.

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 2 months ago by  MrsT2009.
    Post # 50
    Member
    151 posts
    Blushing bee

    A ring doesn’t have to be big, or sparkly. There are so many beautiful handmade, inexpensive rings on etsy in a variety of materials. I have also seen titanium/tungsten rings for less than $10 that look (to me) just like their gold counterparts. I agree with some other posters: why not do an inexpensive ring that is more symbolic than blingy, along with a donation?

    Post # 51
    Member
    310 posts
    Helper bee

    If a ring isn’t super important to her, I say just make the wedding band extra special and get her something else as the engagement gesture.

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