(Closed) Giving in and inviting kids :(

posted 4 years ago in Guests
Post # 91
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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Drizzle:  Like I said several times the only reason I was offended is because they said explicitly that NO children are allowed.  Period.  End of story.  The venue is 18 +.  No children allowed in the building.  None, nope, nada. I had no problem with arranging babysitting and attending the wedding, it was only when I saw other kids there that I was confused.  Why lie?  Why not just say only children of family are coming?  We’re close with them, just be honest.  We gave a generous gift, stayed a few hours, and had a great time.  It didn’t affect the way we treated the couple and it wasn’t a big enough deal to even bring up to them.  Slightly offended doesn’t mean I’m going to ignore the couple for months and give them endless shit over it. 

And while it may sound silly to say that he has a large presence at the office, no he’s not an occasional visitor.  He’s there several days a week during the summer and school breaks and has a playroom.  Sorry if my description of the dynamics sounds stupid to you, but so happy to hear you got a good laugh about it.  Maybe family business means different things to other people, but in thier company the kids are present from birth.  They go to the office every day until they start school.  That’s just how it goes, and I wouldn’t change it.  I’m lucky to marry into a family that prioritizes the kids.


Anyways……. moral of the story and my point from the beginning.  NO it’s absolutely not anyone else’s business if you allow kids or not.  Do what makes you happy at your own wedding.  Don’t let anyone pressure you one way or another.  I’ve seen kids disrupt weddings, and I’ve seen kids be so adorable that the entire audience is awwing from their seats.  Kids are unpredictable.  You never know which you’ll get.  I only brought up my example to say that if you don’t allow kids, be honest with everyone.  Most people should be mature enough to appreciate your reasoning, and if not it’s their loss. 

Post # 92
46 posts
  • Wedding: November 2016 - Fire Hall

So I wasn’t fond of having kids at the wedding and reception, but Fiance was pretty insistent.  His younger brother got married the year before (I wasn’t in the picture) and set the precident.  So I am inviting kids to the wedding, but it is on a case by case basis.  

I am not explicitly saying that it’s an adult wedding but you will get the invite addressed to “and family”


Really I compromised becuase the extended family that would watch the kiddos will also be invited to the wedding.  Sigh



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