Post # 1
I’m a long-term, multi-pet owner and I have a anew situation I’m facing. I have a dog we adopted 3 years ago and we (my family) feel we can’t keep her anymore. She was adopted from a local shelter that had taken in a group of “street dogs” from another state. She’s a small (17 pounds) Basenji mix and is basically a good dog. She never messes in the house, uses a dog door, and gets along with our old dog and all 3 cats. She’s friendly to everyone.However, she has a ton of energy and we’re all extremely busy at home and no one has time or desire to walk her daily. Our other dog is happy with playing in the yard. Besides running my own business, my elderly mother has been sick for the past 6 months and I’m consumed with her care.
We feel we can’t keep her because we can’t contain her. We have a large, fully privacy fenced yard and a fairly long, separate, shaded side yard that is a dog run with house access. This dog digs constantly in an attempt to escape. I spent days securing the side yard last year to make it dig-proof. We bought an electric fence but haven’t had a chance to install it during the winter and I’m afrid she might get through that, too. I work from home so she’s not alone all day. Any unsupervised time in the back yard results in holes dug under the fence and an escape (we live just blocks away from a 6-lane avenue). When she escapes and we drive after her, she runs even faster. Our older dog sees her as his alpha and he misses her terribly, but I don’t get the feeling she has a ton of attachment to him. We’ve spent a lot of time and money bailing her out of shelters when people find her. She seems to go happily with anyone and it doesn’t feel like she has any particularly special attachment to us. She actually seems depressed when she’s back home.
Lately she’s found a new way to escape the secured side yard and she runs to the same place across this avenue and the same lady has found her. She’s told us that if we ever can’t keep her, she’d love to have her. Even though this woman lives in a condo without a yard, she’d walk the dog several times a day and we wonder if this would be a safer and happier situation. I’ve never given a dog away, but I don’t feel we can give her what she needs and keep her safe. When my old dog passes on, I’ll be left with this one, who regardless of what we do to entertain or train her, just wants to roam free.
Any thoughts? I feel guilty, but my life is so stressful right now with no end in sight. Thanks. I’m hoping people can respond kindly – I’m experienced dog owner who has tried to make this situation work.
This lady loves her and wants to keep her.
Post # 3
It sounds like this is the ideal solution for all parties involved.
The dog is obviously not ok being outdoors in a contained area, and this lady has the time and desire to have the dog and walk it regularly. This means the dog gets attention, exercise and doesn’t have a chance to put itself in danger.
I know that a lot of people look down on those who get rid of dogs, but this is VERY different from those who just ditch dogs or send them to overcrowded shelters.
You should be confident in your decision, you are doing what is best. Every situation is unique, and you’re doing what works in this particular case, and it sounds like everybody will come out of it better.
Post # 4
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Is your concern that she will get out and get hit or something similar under your care? Because if I were her owner I would say I am doing the best I can to control this escape artist and I wouldn’t trust another owner to be so vigilant.
Is there a doggy day care in your area? Can you hire a dog walker? Sounds like she neesd some stimulation to tire her out!
I say at the very LEAST wait until spring finally actually comes around and see how the electric fence works.
EDITED: I somehow blacked out and missed the last part about the lady in the condo!
Post # 5
Sounds to me like you’re being responsible and doing what’s best for all involved.
Post # 6
I don’t think this is even in the neighborhood of “getting rid of a dog” – that is throwing the dog out to become a stray or ditching them at the pound or shelter. You realize you have no room for the dog’s needs in your life and are considering a proper owner whom you know will give the dog what it needs. I think it’s ideal.
Post # 7
Caring for an elderly and ill parent is both physically and emotionally draining. I would talk to the woman in the condo and find out if she’s truly serious and capable of handling the dog. I know I’ve snuggled with pets of my friends and said things like ‘I could just steal you and cuddle you forever’, but I didn’t MEAN it. Well, emotionally I meant it but not rationally. I’d also make sure that if she was serious about the offer, that she knew how much work this dog was going to be. It wouldn’t be fair to pass the dog to her, only to have her be in the same situation. If the dog is that destructive outside, she may be just as destructive inside.
Post # 8
sigh get ready for the onslaught
I think maybe giving her away isn’t such a bad thing. It’s hard taking care of an ill adult and trying to care for a very very ….. very active dog. I wouldn’t turn the dog over to a shelter, I’d try local farms first. I was suprised at how many will take on a new animal no problem, I just don’t know how many farms are in CO.
hang in there!!
Post # 9
@lorie: I went through a sort of similar situation. Except my dog was sexist haha! The dog I adopted from the shelter did not attach to me. She would always try to escape from me & wouldn’t play with me, it was like I didn’t exist. Well she played with my cat! She would take off the first chance she could & would not come to me for anything. I took the dog with me to work & she would always listen to the guys that worked there. In fact, there was one guy who she would ditch me for & track him down at the office whenever he visited (he didn’t work at the office but he stopped by very frequently). I think I had her for a month or 2 & asked him if he wanted her (he had expressed interest but wasn’t too serious since I just got the dog). It turned out he really did want her! It was the best thing to do for both of us, the dogs safety was a concern. It took me awhile to get another dog (the one I have now actually) I felt super guilty but the dog was so much happier.
Sometimes I think rehoming a dog is for the best so long as you know the dog is going to a loving home. You could always meet with the lady & see how they do together.
Post # 10
Is the dog only around 3 years old? If that’s the case, it’s still puppyish. From my experience with dogs, they slow down shortly after that age.
But considering everything going on in your life, I can see why you would want to give the dog a more appropriate home. But if a yard is not doing it alone, I don’t think walking will do it alone.
I think the dog will need a yard & someone who can devote more time to it!
Post # 11
I can’t imagine not walking my furbaby everyday but he’s a very high energy breed and I knew that going in. I know you have a lot of stuff going on, but I consider dog walking to be one the responsibilities of dog ownership. If you can’t fulfill the dog’s needs, then it’s great you are giving him to someone who can 🙂
Post # 12
Thanks for your kind responses. I know people say they’d love to take someone else’s dog but don’t really mean it. Last Friday I asked this woman to take the weekend to think it all over and let me know. She called on Saturday and said she decided she really can and does want to take the dog. She had a vacation out of town planned for this week and said she pick the dog up on Friday. If she’s changed her mind when she returns, I’ll keep the dog until I can find a good home. This is a woman who is probably in her 50s and manages a local restaurant, so I don’t get the feeling she’s irresponsible or taking this lightly. Her daughter lives nearby in a house with a yard so she feels she has someone to help her.
Post # 13
I think that your plan is a good one- better to give the dog to someone who can give it what it needs. Makes sense.
Post # 14
@deetroitwhat: She was a year or two when we got her so she’s 4 or 5 now. I had hoped she would calm down a bit with age, but many days she’s like a toddler who’s always looking for the next thing to do. She never learned how to fetch a toy so even when we try to play in the yard she just runs around a bit but we can’t help her burn off some energy like our other dog does chasing a ball.
Post # 15
My experience with Basenji’s is that they are EXTREMELY stubborn, and do not like to be contained. They will always run away at the first chance they get no matter how old they get. They are very smart dogs and they tend to toy with you. That being said, not every dog is a good fit for it’s owner and not every owner is a good fit for it’s dog. I absolutely don’t condone giving away animals because they just don’t suit you, but in certain cases, what is best for the pet IS to let it go and give it to someone who can give it what it needs. Your dog may be much happier with someone else so I don’t think there’s anything wrong with doing this.
Post # 16
That sounds incredibly caring and responsible of you. The dog will be with someone who can give it what it needs.