(Closed) Giving Out Gifts to Bridesmaids

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Well, she did take herself out of the wedding for a little bit, so I think it’d be fine if you got her a cute bag or something like what you’re giving to the other ladies, it doesn’t necessarily have to be the same thing. Just explain to the other ladies what’s going on so they don’t feel shafted, and neither does that one Bridesmaid or Best Man. Your friends should definitely understand πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Honestly?  I’d suck it up and order at full price.   I think I’d feel awkward if I gave everyone a tote but her.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I wanted those same cute tote bags! I saw your post about them and I loved them so I went and personalized them, but didn’t order them b/c we didn’t get paid until the next day and the VERY next day they were $18 so bummed! I’m hoping they go on sale again I check everyday! haha! If they do I’ll let you know. Honestly I would wait a few months to buy her gift if she’s so wishy washy! Even if you do find a cute $5 bag for her that would be a waste of $5 if she flakes again. Plus, maybe in a couple of months they’ll go on sale again πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

ok! let me know how they look when you get them on friday!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I say suck it up and bay the extra 10 bucks to get her the same bag.  If she flakes out again on you then give her the bag for another occasion or give it to another person with the same name.  I just don’t see the point of making more stress on yourself by trying to find another gift that would be equal to the other girls.  Or the stress of wondering if she’s going to be upset over getting a different gift.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

You’re welcome girl! I’m glad I can help! But I do agree with the other posters as well, you could always just pay the extra $$ and get the tote. At least it’s not TOO much more expensive. Or, just get her something else…whatever works! πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

If she flakes again, then she flakes again.  Is $13 the price of her friendship?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I just wish they had free shipping!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Personally if it were me I’d talk to her and explain that I understood her financial situation and that to ease the pressure off her from making a decision I’d be honoured if she’d be at the wedding and do a reading instead of being a Bridesmaid or Best Man. That way she’s still involved in the wedding but she doesn’t need to spend money on the dress or anything. 

But then again I think I’m in the minority. I don’t have a lot of patience for people like that. Either say you can and apologize later and back out but don’t keep going back and forth.

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