Post # 1
Gas is almost $4/gal where I live. My boss constantly asks me for rides. They only have 1 vehicle and yes I understand that’s hard with multiple people in the family. But it’s not my problem!!! I have been asked 3 times this week to bring them somewhere and despite saying things like “gas is really high, I just have enough to get me home tonight” they don’t care or get it. I said “my car is on E I just have enough to get home and planned to fill up tomorrow (payday)”. No it’s not true that I don’t have the $ fill up but it’s the principle of the whole thing.
HOW bees, HOW can I say this to my BOSS of all people? How can I say “No, I don’t want to give you a ride. Plan ahead or walk. Ride a bike.” when it’s my boss??!!! I’m losing my mind here!! I feel taken advantage of.
As my DH says, “your nice new vehicle being at work does NOT equal a vehicle for the office to utilize”.
Post # 3
Ugh! Do you have an HR department you could talk to?
Or take your bike to work for a week so he gets out of the habit of pestering you for rides!
Post # 4
@BrandNewBride: I’m afraid to go to HR (actually I’m unionized so I could use that, too) because I feel like she would say “you could have just said no”. And I haven’t come right out and said flat out, NO yet. I honestly thought of taking my bike or walking! I am a health nut and wouldn’t mind the extra activity one bit. But then I’m troubling my own routine, yet again! It’s just so annoying!! I think riding a bike/walking next week will be the answer I only live 3.5ish miles from the office.
Post # 5
@MrsD41503: Yikes, 3 times a week? Can you not make up plans that you have to get to right away?
Post # 6
Hmm… that’s a tough one. I really think that HR would tell you to just talk to your boss or tell you to give a flat out no so I don’t think HR could really help in this situation.
If you don’t want to give rides anymore, just tell them that you can’t. Say you have to pick up your husband or something now on your commute and can no longer give rides. Or if it’s just a gas issue, say you don’t mind giving rides but you would like some money towards the gas expense. It’s tough to say something but if you don’t I could see this really starting to get to you. Good luck!
Post # 7
@AlwaysSunny: Yes 3 time this week. Since they are my boss they know my work load and it’s always during the work day so they see no problem with me taking a little break to run them around.
Post # 8
How many miles is the ride your boss is asking for?
Also, you could tell him that you are not going that way and have plans to do XYZ the other direction and simply say, sorry.
Another option would be to ask your boss if you would like to start carpooling on a regular schedule. Say I can give you a ride Tues & Thursdays and in return he could throw you $X a month for the gas. Tell your boss its easier for you to plan when its a set schedule.
Post # 9
@MrsD41503: Ugh, it’s during work? That’s what I was worried about.
What’s the response when you say “I’m on empty?” If it doesn’t work I might be a little more explicit, like “I can’t. I’m sorry.” Giving an excuse seems to open the door a bit.
Post # 10
Is your boss a man or a woman?
Post # 11
@MrsD41503: Oh during work, thats different.
What are the errands? Personal or work related? I would ask if you can expense the gas if its work related.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I would start asking for gas money.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
@ThreeMeers: I agree.
Also, if it’s personal errands, that is highly inappropriate.
Post # 14
That’s a tough spot. You don’t want to be a jerk and say no, but now that you’ve done it a couple times it’s expected. Which is just someone taking advantage of you.
Say no. However you have to. “Sorry, my husband doesn’t want extra miles on the car.” “Sorry, I have to go straight home.”
Or… “Sure, for $5. Yes, really.”
And you’re right, HR is going to tell you to work it out and you’ll be labeled a whiner. Unless your boss demands the keys to your personal vehicle or threatens to fire you or treats you badly because you refuse to do personal favors for him/her, then… tell someone.
Post # 15
@MrsD41503: I would ask where I could find the form to write off the mileage as I’ve been using my personal car for her. I would absolutely not let it stand.
Post # 16
i always have trouble saying no to people, i too would have been giving rides just as you are, but when it starts to become bothersome to you, then it is in your right to say no. Push yourself to say NO and you will be surprised at how much you can get to go your way. I hate being taken advantage of and that should be enough reason for you to defend your right to choose.