Post # 1
Are the bride and groom typically expected to say a few words at the reception? We were planning on saying something at the rehearsal dinner but my mom thinks we should do this at the reception too. We already have my dad, Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid or Best Man, and my brother giving toasts at the reception and I don’t want it to drag on forever. Thoughts??
Post # 3
Traditionally, the groom toasts his bride; the bride doesn’t speak. But really, who follows that these days?
If you and Fiance want to give your own toast, then go ahead. And if you’re worried about length, space them out at intervals (You and Fiance, then Dad, then 1st course, then Maid/Matron of Honor, then dinner, etc. etc.) and tell everyone brevity is the order of the day.
Post # 4
We’re planning on just doing a really brief, “Thank you all so much for coming” sort of speech, which will follow our Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man speeches. And then, we’re going to cut our cake, so I can have cake before dinner 🙂
Post # 5
We had several speeches lined up: my father, my step-father, my father-in-law, and our best man, and because we felt it was important for us to say a few words, too, we asked everyone to keep their speeches to the absolute minimum. And it worked out just fine.
Post # 6
We said a few brief words at the rehearsal dinner, but nothing at the wedding reception. I had thought about saying something, in particular to toast those who weren’t able to make it there, and those who passed on during the 14 months of our engagement. But in the end we just went without.
Post # 7
I have been to countless weddings and never once seen/heard the couple give any speech at all, even a short “thank you for coming”. No one was expecting one either, nor did they feel offended in the least that one was not given. I am not a public speaker at all and I have no intentions of giving a speech, just because the wedding magazines say it is required when it is not in reality. FH doesn’t care either way, and has never seen speeches at weddings either.
Give one if you want, but your guests will still enjoy themselves if it’s not there.
Post # 8
I would probably only do a brief “thank you all for coming” type of speech. However, many couples have their MC thank the guests on their behalf, so it is not really necessary to have the bride and groom speak.