Post # 1

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Busy Beekeeper
I am walking down the aisle by myself. I want my mom, one of my brothers (the other is in AK), little sister, and dad to give me away. I have in mind them standing behind us in a half circle after I come in. And when the Minister asks, “Who gives this lady away”. They’ll all say, “We do”. I just can’t think of how to get this to work logistically. Maybe they should just stand in their places and say it. I don’t know what will work best and be less awkward. My brother and sister are in the wedding, so they’ll be at the front with the Wedding Party . My mom wil be on the front row and my dad will be somewhere in there, lol. Any suggestions on how to get this to work smoothly? Thanks
Post # 3

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Honey Beekeeper
In order to avoid mass confusion, I would just have then stand,the ones in the wedding party can take a step forward, then they can all say- we all do!
Post # 4

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Bumble bee
I would say that when you get to the end of the aisle, your parents should come over to stand on either side of you and your siblings should ‘take a step forward’ from the rest of the wedding party at the altar. This way they can all say ‘we do’ together – and still be honored and set apart. Would that work?
Post # 5

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Busy Beekeeper
@julies1949: I have been thinking about that recently.Thanks
Post # 6

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Busy Beekeeper
@christalynn11: Does it matter that my parents aren’t married?
Post # 7

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Bumble bee
@PrncssDva: Honestly, I don’t think so. If they are both already seated (and not being escorted down the aisle), they can walk up and stand on either side of you for the moment. If that scenario doesn’t feel comfortable because of emotions, that might not work.
The only problem with having people stand is that usually at that point in the ceremony, people are still standing from your arrival. If that is the case, you could have the officiant say please be seated and let your parents know to remain standing.
Post # 8

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Busy Beekeeper
@christalynn11:HUmmmmmmmm that’s an interesting idea also. They are very similar, though I kind of like the idea of my mom being up there with me like that.
Post # 9

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Bumble bee
@PrncssDva: I decided only this past weekend that I could not walk ONLY with my Dad down the aisle, not when my mom was who raised me. They are still married, which is obviously different, but we ended up deciding they will both walk me and answer ‘We do.’
So do you have active step parents also? Will they say ‘we do?’ as well?
Post # 10

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Busy Beekeeper
@christalynn11: Yeah, sometimes you never really know how you truley want things until the last minute. No, there are no active step-parents.
Post # 11

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Bumble bee
ACK! I JUST noticed you are getting married this weekend! Congrats! And yeah, I’m on the last minute bandwagon with you too!
Post # 12

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Busy Beekeeper
@christalynn11: Thanks so much!! Those small details seem so very important to me, lol I’m sure noone else will care, but I do.