Post # 1
ok so im in a pickle and peesonally i dont really care about this tradition however my step dad expressed to me this morning that it was really important that he were to do this… i wont have him do it unless my mom partcipates though.
basically the story is that they dont speak, never will but will tolerate eachother for my sake. i talked to both of them and they both will stand up together and “give me away” but my mom does not want to say “we will” because they “never really were a we” she says…
Post # 3
is there an alteenative way to do this?
Post # 4
could they say it one after the other? Your mom could say “I do” and then your step dad could go.
Post # 5
Can they both say “I will” at the same time?
Post # 6
My mother gave me away at my wedding, but she is not remarried.
I’ve seen the stepdad walk the bride up to the front of the aisle, then he sits, and mother takes her up to the alter.
Post # 7
I’m sorry. I am confused. Are you talking about your father and stepfather both participating in giving you away (and that your father and stepfather do not speak) OR that your mother and father do not speak, or that you mother and stepfather do not speak?
Post # 9
my mother and my stepfather dont speak. my real father was never in the picture
Post # 10
What about saying “her mother and I do.” Or does that still convey too much unity?
Post # 11
If there are two people, and each is referring to themself and the other, that makes them “we.” The word does not have to imply any other meaning than “me and this other lump of flesh that’s talking.” If she really can not bring herself to say it, I would suggest that they both just say “I do” at the same time or one after the other, but honestly, she should let go and stop allowing her hurt to limit her in such a degree.